An African Woman: The African Perspective I know


african_womenAnd this is what I know is the general African Perspective of an African Woman:

Oh that African Woman, mother of the continent;

She is that woman who behing the ‘scenes’ is the head of her household, but who in public should only be seen and not heard;

She is that woman, who knows what it means to stay hungry so that her family has at least that one meal;

She is equally that woman who has learnt that meaning of self- sacrifice which could mean being submissive enough to bear your hurts graciously;

Yes, the African Woman as l know and have been reminded, is that ‘grateful’ woman who knows better than to ‘wash any dirty linen in public’;

She knows what Dignity means;

She knows what hard work means;

She knows what approvals means and she does all it takes to get her master’s approval (be it her Father, Husband or Lover);

Hence Domestic Abuse had no place in your vocabulary, it simply should not be heard that you were ever abused at all;

Oh African Woman, maybe l am wrong given that l may hence only be African in Colour, but l dare think you’ve been through so much;

You grew up suspecting what the ‘whiteman’ had to teach;

Education in his schools was not for you, being married off early so as to ‘save’ your family some and probably add to the ‘herd of cows’, was more appropriate;

You were brought up believing so much was due to ‘madness’, ‘witchcraft’ or a ‘family curse’;

Then when the ‘whiteman’ brought ‘religion’, you found solace in knowing the ALMIGHTY had a reason for our ‘plight’;

Hence to you, ‘mental illness’ was another of those ‘white man’s terms’, it was just another ploy for your ‘indoctrinated’ kids to ‘act up and seek for notice’;

How I wish l could be proved right or wrong;

How indeed l wish, the African perspective as l think l know, could actually be blurred by my own ‘mental issues”;

I love magazines like this, hoping they could reflect the majority
I love magazines like this, hoping they could reflect the majority
And there are such pretty stats too
And there are such pretty stats too

Indeed, I may probably by now, be African only in Colour because l have the guts to write all such ‘crap’;

l really have the guts to even publish a book and not just do my ‘dirty laundry’ for a short and stinking while;

Ha, you this hitherto African Woman, you have the guts indeed to go on TV and radio and run your ‘big mouth’;

Well, and alas if l may say, l sincerely think only you the African Woman can change that African Perspective of yourself if you so want;

Thus l think that’s why your own mothers fought it as they could, in all determination and dedication, to get you sent off to school as well;

l also guess that’s why, they started siding with those of you who had the ‘guts’ to choose your own ‘husband’;

And this is why I do what l do, l am contributing my mite to that

The African Woman in revolution, in need and indeed
The African Woman in revolution, in need and indeed

‘revolution cum evolution’ as it is bound to ‘explode’ some day;

Surely not all in my generation, but probably for posterity;

l want my sons to know that their African Women are worth as much as themselves and should be treated with grace in an equal partnership;

That the African Woman has equal rights because they shoulder equal or even greater responsibilities;

I truly just want the world to know, that the African Woman cries more often within than she would dare otherwise, that the pain of losing her children to ‘madness’ and senseless wars and much more, is slowly ripping her apart;

Indeed, while some great African Women of today even go to battle fronts, seek seats in the Parliaments and Presidencies, are business moguls and all, I will use what I have and know best;

I will use my story, my pen and my ‘big mouth’ and so being a guest on the VOICE OF THE VOICELESS SHOW was just one of those platforms;

On the STV Voice of the Voiceless show
On the STV Voice of the Voiceless show

To this end, l will know no peace!

 

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9 thoughts on “An African Woman: The African Perspective I know”

  1. Hi Marie,

    You are a brave lady and stand up for what you believe in. I know you’re speaking for those who are too afraid to speak out. I hope you achieve what you’re trying to by using your story, pen and mouth.

    Have a good evening.

  2. “l want my sons to know that their African Women are worth as much as themselves and should be treated with grace in an equal partnership;”

    Well said, we can push change from our homes as we do this.

    1. Timi dear,

      I am glad you found this rightly framed. I think it is imperative we mothers and women of today, teach our sons as much with the hope of breaking that pattern of ‘abuse’ and ‘submission thereto’.

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