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The Best thing my boss ever did to me was not to give me a raise but a sack…


I have come to firmly assert the following: “Do not be afraid of your breaking point for your Turning Point is just round that bend”. And when such is what happens to you over and over, you develop that thick, confident and lively skin and spirit which makes optimistic  and pessimistic fellas wonder about your physiology 🙂

I vividly remember preparing to go meet my boss in the office on a friday afternoon. The atmosphere in the office was degrading free fall and I was already under so much pressure mentally. I was equally completing a thesis and another memoir. I think I was equally fed up with that job by then. I loved it but my love and dedication weren’t doing it enough. It wasn’t reciprocal and that sucked.

I also admired my boss very much and indeed she is one of my heroines.  Yet, as much as she appreciated my efforts, she had to make a choice. Let me off and let the team “breathe”.

I went in and took the news bravely. I dealt with my palpitations and ‘mini depression’ that followed. I fortunately had such a terrific support network including mother general herself.


Today, am back to my country Cameroon and by all faith, praise to my Almighty and Amazing Father, I am my own Boss. I moved into my own office yesterday and we even had a small reception aka office warming.


Dear all, isn’t this awesome? I can do just so much without fear of anymore sacking. I know what is on the other side of the coin. Albeit what ifs… But hmm that my skin and spirit will sure see me thru. Once more people, try trying to look far beyong that breaking to be ready for the bringing…



Marie Angele Abanga (simplified to Marie Abanga) aka MAG likes to describe herself as a “Jacqueline of several trades”. She is an everyday woman and mother with a zigzag profile. Let’s give it a try! She is an Activist, an Author, a Coach, a Consultant, a Feminist, a Lawyer, a Lecturer, a Prince 2 Project Manager, a Psychotherapist, a Philanthropist, a minister of the Word of God and...! She just loves to sum it up by saying she is a person of passions and a tale of talents. Her life’s journey has filled over 6 books already and her three musketeers keep her busy at home. MAG is also the founder and CEO of the association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and the Country Director of the Gabriel Bebonbechem Foundation for Epilepsy & Mental wellbeing. The plethora of life's experiences and shenanigans she has lived through and learned from in near 4 decades of existence, have equipped her with such an arsenal to coach, train and motivate just any and everyone. She is so charismatic, dynamic and full of life, going by her designed mantra of 3Ds: Determination; Discipline and Dedication. These sum her+her quest to be the best version of herself and impact others perfectly. She attributes all her wealth of knowledge to her conscientious attendance of both informal and formal school.

19 thoughts on “The Best thing my boss ever did to me was not to give me a raise but a sack…

  1. Marie, congratulations. You’ve come a long way and you deserve this 100% because you worked for it. Ever since I met you, you’ve set goals and worked towards achieving them. Even when life threw bricks at you.That didn’t stop you. It just gave you more power to carry on, by the grace of God.

    I admire you and you inspire me. I thank God for your life. You’re an amazing woman Marie and I mean that from my heart. I pray God will continue to open more amazing doors for you. 🙂

    1. Amen!!! Junie, I know you know what you write. You’ve been there near and far, we’ve met and we’ve spoken several times. I owe loads of my blogging life to you, you taught me by that blog post of yours that you may never now who you help by what you’ve written. I am saying this because am not sure you could imagine how much that post of yours helped get determined to stay dedicated to blogging regardless of any bricks which threatened to collapse in and around me. I hope you get inspired as much too from my own posts sometimes. Thanks so much for your sharing. Indeed, my e-family means tremendous to me. With my Almighty Father on my side, what can derail me?

  2. Thank you Marie for your support. I’m glad I was able to help. And your posts do inspire me, especially when I need it.

    Have a blessed evening. 🙂

  3. I can’t believe I missed this – thank God I found it today! I’ve been very behind on my beloved blogs.

    I’m thrilled for you and I love these pictures! You look stunning and the office is beautiful too. I continue to be proud of you and inspired by your vision and drive! Xo

    1. Lady lady lady Dyane dearest, there you go! I sure missed you but I knew you were around the corner because I felt you via Twt + rt. Hope the writing coming up cool and so is life too huh. Do u have winter over there of just like florida? All the best love

      1. That’s right – you know at least i tried on Twitter, LOL! Just got got up for a bit – you’ll see my scattered comments, ha ha! And a question!

      2. I’m making a small amount of progress with the writing – got 250 rough pigs, 18 chapters so far but I call it my SKELETON because it needs to be infused with a whole lot lot of lifeblood! I have to just be patient…..keep going…

        It’s starting to get cold up here, and all I can say about that is YUCK!!!!!! We do indeed get winter but rarely any snow.

        You can take the girl out of Los Angeles, but you can’t take Los Angeles outta da girl!


      3. So am I too you know. Would have loved to be midway now but hmm, am in a different setting and lots of other fishes to fry 🙂 so patience and peserverance is the key. Just keep shaping the skeleton back to life

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