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Friends are the Family we chose for ourselves: My Soul Family


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Dear World, Another year is drawing to an end and I am still thinking how it started. In January this year, I was actually planning on moving into my own home and taking my boys to live with me, and this was a daunting project to say the least. Thanks very largely to the emotional support of my few but precious friends especially you out here on the blogosphere, I safely made that transition.

The above and several other reasons and scenarios, have come to confirm that saying to me: You my friends (my e-family as I have so fondly called you), are really part of my soul family: Indeed, unlike my birth family which I never chose, I chose each and everyone of you. I chose you because I had a choice not to. When I decide to chose a friend, I am very aware of what is at stake. Even when someone choses me, I have that choice not to reciprocate.

I therefore wanna sincerely thank you all my friends – my dear e-family (yes I barely have a palm full of offline friends – not to be confused with my throng of acquaintances) oh my, who can I name? Captain – Lady Dyane, Junie my dearest, Pammy sweet Pammy, Bradley of Bipolar Bear, Blah diaries of such sweet/sour memories … I can’t go on… such unconditional friendship – something deeper and redder than blood flowing in my veins when I think or reach out to you …

I wish us all so so much well – Life is so short, each day we learn of a death – sometimes more than one – I just wanna try my best till it’s my turn …

And now over to you: Do you agree friends could be the family we chose for ourselves? Any experiences you may wish to share?

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Marie Angele Abanga (simplified to Marie Abanga) aka MAG likes to describe herself as a “Jacqueline of several trades”. She is an everyday woman and mother with a zigzag profile. Let’s give it a try! She is an Activist, an Author, a Coach, a Consultant, a Feminist, a Lawyer, a Lecturer, a Prince 2 Project Manager, a Psychotherapist, a Philanthropist, a minister of the Word of God and...! She just loves to sum it up by saying she is a person of passions and a tale of talents. Her life’s journey has filled over 6 books already and her three musketeers keep her busy at home. MAG is also the founder and CEO of the association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and the Country Director of the Gabriel Bebonbechem Foundation for Epilepsy & Mental wellbeing. The plethora of life's experiences and shenanigans she has lived through and learned from in near 4 decades of existence, have equipped her with such an arsenal to coach, train and motivate just any and everyone. She is so charismatic, dynamic and full of life, going by her designed mantra of 3Ds: Determination; Discipline and Dedication. These sum her+her quest to be the best version of herself and impact others perfectly. She attributes all her wealth of knowledge to her conscientious attendance of both informal and formal school.

10 thoughts on “Friends are the Family we chose for ourselves: My Soul Family

    1. Thanks Ada, you nail it. However, and whichever, when you have those friends who get to your soul by their unconditional and reciprocal friendship, they to me fit as Family. I know you know the types am talking of… Thanks once more for hosting me ans next year I’ll reblog those on my blog and hope those posts get more laughs

  1. Marie, my dear. You are so right. Our family is what we are born into but friends cross our paths for a reason. We can choose the ones we believe should have a place in our lives.

    Friends come and friends go. But some stay long term. Those are the ones that impact our lives in a positive way.

    Friends have been much more supportive to me than most of my family members. Friends are usually the ones I go to when I need encouragement or advice. When I do well and achieve a goal, friends will congratulate and support me more than my family.

    Over the years I have realized that the famil that stood by me no matter what were my daughters. Other family members are there but they are more interested in their immediate families.

    But, I thank God for families anyway. And I thank God for friends like you.

    Enjoy the rest of the day. x

  2. Marie, my dear. You are so right. Our family is what we are born into but friends cross our paths for a reason. We can choose the ones we believe should have a place in our lives.

    Friends come and friends go. But some stay long term. Those are the ones that impact our lives in a positive way.

    Friends have been much more supportive to me than most of my family members. Friends are usually the ones I go to when I need encouragement or advice. When I do well and achieve a goal, friends will congratulate and support me more than my family.

    Over the years I have realized that the famil that stood by me no matter what were my daughters. Other family members are there but they are more interested in their immediate families.

    But, I thank God for families anyway. And I thank God for friends like you.

    Enjoy the rest of the day. x

    1. I dunno but I don’t mind having them both, such happens and we chose how to handle that right dearie 🙂 Now you stop worrying and excusing yourself – just enjoy the day and season

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