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Learning to Face My Fears Part 2!

This is part two of the series I started last friday and which I explained were those of my dear friend Ashley Rose

If you missed out on part one you could refresh here: When I am done with her series, I will share just one of mine, for now let’s read on, like, comment and share:

Facing fears can be a very difficult thing to do. I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder four years ago. With having an anxiety disorder, I have dealt with being afraid of going over bridges. When I was 8 years old, I went on a school field trip to the beach. While the bus was crossing over a bridge, a huge boat went under the bridge causing the bridge to open up so the big boat could make its way through. At the time I was panicked because I did not exactly understand what was happening. My teacher saw that everyone was scared, but was delayed in explaining the situation. I still get scared when I cross over bridges, but I have been able to lessen the panic significantly.

Watched video of bridge: I forced myself to watch a video of someone driving over one of the longest bridges in the United States. Watching the video was not as bad as I expected. My stomach turned a little in the beginning of the video, but I finished feeling very strong about facing bridges.

Drove over a small bridge: Usually when I go to the beach, I am with a family member or a friend who will drive over the bridge for me or coax me through it. I decided to face my very own fear and drive over the bridge in Savannah, Georgia which leads to Tybee Island. The bridge is very high and it is the one that we went over when I was eight years old. I finally drove it all by myself and it was the scariest thing I could imagine at the time. I was so nervous and held my breath. I was really scared because there was a big boat getting close to passing under the bridge and I was scared the boat would come busting through the bridge and my car would fall into the Savannah River and I would be gone forever. Of course, everything went smoothly going over and coming back.

Drove over a huge bridge: So I moved to Long Beach, California for a year to face fears and get different scenery from my home state of Georgia. I had to go to San Pedro to see a client one day and I tried my best to avoid going over the super big green Vincent Thomas Bridge, but it was inevitable. It was terrifying because the people around me were driving so reckless like they were on the set of “2 Fast and 2 Furious.” They were too fast and I was too furious. The bridge felt like it was a hundred miles long and it never ended. There was a lot of traffic and the lights were stop and go. The bridge looks old so I was worried it was going to fall any minute, but somehow I made it back home safe and sound.

I have continued to drive over bridges, not because I want to, but because I want to get to other states and places. I continue to face my fears head on and pray the entire way. My fear of bridges may seem a bit irrational, but it is very real to me. Slowly and surely, I hope to continue on my journey and face the fears that have paralyzed me for too long.




Marie Abanga aka MAG likes to describe herself as a “Jacqueline of several trades”. She is an everyday woman and mother with a zigzag profile. Let’s give it a try! She is an Activist, an Author, a Coach, a Consultant, a Feminist, a Lawyer, a Lecturer, a Prince 2 Project Manager, a Psychotherapist, a Philanthropist, a minister of the Word of God and...! She just loves to sum it up by saying she is a person of passions and a tale of talents. Her life’s journey has filled over 6 books already and her three musketeers keep her busy at home. MAG is also the founder and CEO of the association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and the Country Director of the Gabriel Bebonbechem Foundation for Epilepsy & Mental wellbeing. The plethora of life's experiences and shenanigans she has lived through and learned from in near 4 decades of existence, have equipped her with such an arsenal to coach, train and motivate just any and everyone. She is so charismatic, dynamic and full of life, going by her designed mantra of 3Ds: Determination; Discipline and Dedication. These sum her+her quest to be the best version of herself and impact others perfectly. She attributes all her wealth of knowledge to her conscientious attendance of both informal and formal school.

9 thoughts on “Learning to Face My Fears Part 2!

  1. Thanks for sharing another in this series on fear. Fear is a nasty thing. That’s what I’ll call it. It keeps a lot of people in bondage in one form or another.

    I love the way your friend Rose deals with it. The best way to tackle fear is to do the thing you fear.

    I used to be scared of spiders. But as a Christian I know that I have authority over them. So with that in mind, when they invade my territory, I just get a tissue, pick them up and throw them outside or flush them down the toilet. I don’t like flushing them but if I can’t get outside then I have no choice but to give them a swim.

    I look forward to the next article in the series.

    Have a nice weekend. 🙂


    1. June,
      thanks for stopping by once more you truly are a fan
      Thanks also for sharing your brief testimony and sure I will post the two last series to close the year so stay tuned
      Blessings from Brussels 🙂


  2. Muscle tension, tremors Heavy, labored breathing Heart palpitations
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  3. This Rose and I seem to have a lot in common! I too have always had an irrational fear of driving over bridges!! I have managed to deal with this one over the years, but it is still there in the back of my mind.

    Thanks again for sharing another encouraging story of hope!

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    1. Hi Shell, thanks for stopping by and commenting. It is oh so terrible. The thing is since the don’t live, can’t feel it or even imagine it, they stigmatize anyone who does. That’s why I advocate and am so vulnerable and unapologetic in my authenticity. I had had enough of feigning to be ‘normal’ and ‘pleasing’. There is also something some seem not to understand. The fact that you fear something today don’t mean you’ll always fear that. I used to be scared of driving cross a bridge. I still recall the first time I did, oh how I sweated, towards to end I closed my eyes anticipating that was where I was sure going to drive off into the water. I had a few other similar experience but told no one for fear of being ‘shamed or found silly’. Today, I am so much better but I can’t invalidate someone who is still back there or who suffers from any other phobias. Now, look at it this other way, some of us love cats while others will faint if a cat walks near them… Should we find them silly?

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