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What is your Purpose? I found mine 19 good years after reading the purpose driven life

The purpose driven life

The year was 1999, precisely in July. I was at another crossroad in my thrilling life. I was already in the university and could thus fearlessly tell mum what I wanted. I was ‘fed’ up staying with her (oh this once troubled soul), and I asked to go live with my dad (I hadn’t seen him in 5/6 years). When she asked me what I needed to take along, I challenged her to get me 3 books. I didn’t know she’ll do just that.

She got me three once in a life time books:

  1. The Purpose Driven life by Rick Warren;
  2. The Way by Jose Maria Escriva,;and
  3. Growing in Christ (not by J. Packer but by a Nigerian Author whose name I can’t seem to remember).

I still have The Way


with me, but sadly the other two got burnt alongside my other stuffs by my ex… another blog for this lol, back to finding my purpose…

That book (the purpose driven life especially) sparked a tsunamis in me…but it took me 19 years of dabbling to finding my purpose…I call this period now the gestation period.

Now no joking, but I got that purpose delivered to me in words of Gold while I sat in the loo my love, doing my business on the 7th day of stage 1 of this purification journey.

The papa up there (as I sometimes refer to God), was gradually ushering me there. My way was a really up/down bumpy one, but I now see it was all part of getting there – to finding and loving my purpose oh so much.

Below is what I wrote down there and then, and when I shared same with a mentor, we can read his feedback after my purpose in bold too:

To Inspire and Motivate people from different walks of life with my personal experiences

I truly like it. It’s personal and REAL. People will likely relate very easily and appreciate your honesty and sincerity.

It’s a wonderful feeling discovering one’s PURPOSE. It improves clarity and focus. It lightens one’s negative emotions while adding fuel to one’s passionate ones. It helps create greater MEANING in this thing we call LIFE!

Hmm, now that I have so spelt out, I am using this time in my spiritual and purification journey to take it all in and embrace it all dimensions. No doubt I have this mountain high of personal experiences. My papa up there/in here,  is simply wonderful.

There really can be miracles when we believe. We have to search and keep doing, patiently, persistently, with all the perseverance we have. My 3 Ds can help too, we are determined, we work on being disciplined always and we stay dedicated. It takes time, yes it does. It is tough, yes it is, but it is fulfilling – none can compare to my joy right now…

And so dear gentle readers and followers, may I formally let you in on my purpose, inspiring and motivating you with my own personal examples of all things cool and shaggy, to find yours or keep at it for those like myself who have already found theirs.


Marie Angele Abanga (simplified to Marie Abanga) aka MAG likes to describe herself as a “Jacqueline of several trades”. She is an everyday woman and mother with a zigzag profile. Let’s give it a try! She is an Activist, an Author, a Coach, a Consultant, a Feminist, a Lawyer, a Lecturer, a Prince 2 Project Manager, a Psychotherapist, a Philanthropist, a minister of the Word of God and...! She just loves to sum it up by saying she is a person of passions and a tale of talents. Her life’s journey has filled over 6 books already and her three musketeers keep her busy at home. MAG is also the founder and CEO of the association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and the Country Director of the Gabriel Bebonbechem Foundation for Epilepsy & Mental wellbeing. The plethora of life's experiences and shenanigans she has lived through and learned from in near 4 decades of existence, have equipped her with such an arsenal to coach, train and motivate just any and everyone. She is so charismatic, dynamic and full of life, going by her designed mantra of 3Ds: Determination; Discipline and Dedication. These sum her+her quest to be the best version of herself and impact others perfectly. She attributes all her wealth of knowledge to her conscientious attendance of both informal and formal school.

9 thoughts on “What is your Purpose? I found mine 19 good years after reading the purpose driven life

  1. The more people that see your PURPOSE and the effects experienced by YOU as a result, the more likely others will explore the challenges of discovering THEIR PURPOSE(S). As you understand, PURPOSE acts as a powerful motivator to help people move forward in a positive direction through all sorts of obstacles. It creates a “protective barrier” against harmful emotions that might otherwise interfere with your three “D”s (discipline, determination and dedication). These words you write are truly a key to “resurrecting” one’s existence; overcoming the onslaught of personal self harm and ultimately maximizing one’s life. It is through meaningful experiences that NOW reveal themselves and the sharing of one’s soul to potentially help and improve the lives of others where completeness and fulfillment is discovered.

    1. Truly doc, isn’t all this so awesome? You search and search and then one day baam it comes to you just like that and then it all makes sense. I mean I already feel like a new new Marie Abanga. Like RA and PTSD and swollen eye and all those stuffs mean nothing to my heart – which is what matters for me as I seek to fulfill my purpose. It really is such a positive motivator and creates a much needed protective barrier. I can now, as I have fortunately been doing for a while, look at all obstacles with my purpose in mind. For example, a nagging swollen eye becomes an experience in gratitude for even having a good one left and having had an un-swollen eye for so long. It is also an experience in appreciating each moment of sight and how to take better care of all etc. I look so forward to helping as many as cross my path. If many are also inspired and motivated to find their own purposes or keep to theirs mindful of all the obstacles, then that’s a sure big bonus.

  2. Sis, I am really inspired by your journey. The question of people asking what is your faith is very interesting. I love that you are boldly being true to what moves you and not swayed by the opinion of others. It takes courage to do that in the face of marching to the beat of your own drum and not the status quo. Du courage ma soeur, du courage o!

    1. Dear Mimshe, merci ma soeur, merci beaucoup. We can say I was molded with this firm attitude to follow my heart and for this I am forever grateful. Be inspired dear, that is my whole purpose of sharing this selflessly.

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