Pre script: It’s been so long I reviewed a book, not because I am no longer reading books, but I just sort of ‘graduated’ from doing them? Hahaha. But here is a book, a scintillating autobiography as she calls it, I hope my review does it some justice. Read on or click the link to watch my live video on Facebook reviewing same o
I am an author, and I thought my first memoir was sizzling; well I have read a scintillating autobiography and all I have for the author is respect.
I first met Thatcher Nshan in 2006 in MTN CAMEROON, and we connected on Facebook a year or so ago. I celebrate her for all she is, all she does, and all she will keep doing both directly and indirectly in the mighty name of Jesus Amen
The memoir is one I couldn’t put down just like that, took me 2.5 days to read because I had other things to do lol
She tells us some about her childhood and her dreams which I am sure many of us girls and ladies can relate to. One of those is getting married to the love of her life. Yes, that was mine too.
It starts getting zigzag from there. Sometimes, when you are shielded a lot growing up, once on your own only God’s Grace can keep you grounded. Psalms 23 is no joker, she went through not one but several valleys of the Shadow of death. Let’s look at some in bullet points ok, I am no spoiler – get a copy from her at 5k
1) A very love infested but toxic Relationship with Ekwe…the abuse she got which almost turned her too into a murderer wow…on Facebook she doesn’t seem to tell her readers all;
2) Numerous affairs with Married Men to the point of wondering if there ain’t a spirit in her which attracts them to her or vice versa;
3) A boy toy or toy boy (whichever) affair which has such a twist even I who once had one, felt like a novice – these things are real and although I wouldn’t call the boys toys, I think it’s time we acknowledge that age ain’t no barrier in love;
4) The obsession with getting healed or delivered from both physical and suspected spiritual infirmities which take her to all sorts of houses (both God and Satan ones) with the apex being to the Synagogue in Naija not once but twice. Read that book to find out more;
5) And just when you think you have read it all…the Desire Saga sets in and the scam she is dealt by a prospective husband (they were already fiance and she lived with his twins even long after that scam – God bless her), oh my goodness some people dine with the devil FULLSTOP. This landed her in jail ah I forgot about first taking her through the psychiatric ward of the Laquentinie hospital in Douala.
There is a volume 2 I hear, I mean the story of her life is one good for a movie.
I pray she finds the deliverance, Healing and Love of her life she is still hoping for Amen
Young girls o, please do yourselves a favour get this scintillating autobiography and review your own lives before it’s too late. At least, through it all, she has her two beautiful and graceful children, one a miracle because science had said no way you can have a child again… arghhhhhhhh MAG you didn’t have to spoil it now
Ok read volume I and watch out for volume 2 which will detail her prison(s) experiences
Contact her to get a copy at: 655861266/678269970 email@example.com
NB: I did a Facebook live video to review this book and so if you are on Facebook or can follow the link below to watch, that’s cool too: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1362666903875110&id=100003954406995
It’s been a long while I reviewed a book on my blog, but I have been reading many without being bitten by the ‘review me’ bug lol. Ashley’s book has gotten the ‘review me’ bug biting my fingers again. The book is simply one I had to read and make as many as notes as possible, the total being 65 highlighted notes. It is on the basis of these that I review this very important book mental health users and carers would do well to read.
The goal of the book is very clear as follows: The goal of this book is to demystify psychiatric medications and give people living with mental illness, as well as those who support us, the knowledge to make the best possible decisions when it comes to medication.
With the above in mind, I read the book as the project manager I am. I recall with some loathing truth be told, when I spent nearly 2 years taking medications including psychiatric ones, without ever trying to acquire any knowledge which could help me make the best possible decisions for myself. Had I known will always be the last in class because we hardly even think of them when starting a lesson.
Well, with psychiatric medications, you seriously don’t want take your health or those you care for, for granted. Mental illness (I live with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), is for real and yet, you are not an invalid who can’t decide for themselves unless totally sedated or so psychotic enough to care any more. Ashley’s book is focused on the most common types of psychiatric medications: antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti psychotics, anti anxiety medications, and stimulants, and yet she is adamant in asserting that: “The notion that medications produce some artificial form of wellness is simply absurd. What I gather from reading the book all through therefore is that, she did all the research including using her own self as a case study, to give her readers and the mental illness community at large, a good base of knowledgeable material to get and keep the conversation going. Recovery from a mental illness is possible if the right combination of medications and holistic treatment protocol are found. Trust me I know it may be hard, it is even daunting reading about the different side effects of the several of the medications.
I learned so much, and I honestly marvel at the depth of the research into technical and not cool products such as medications. I learned for example that it is better to take a cocktail of medications at reduced dosage, than only one at a high dose whose side effects may be devastating. I was also thrilled to learn about the relationship between inflammation and depression, and so much in the book kept getting me highlight wow. I could now understand some about the side effects I experienced, as well as those my brother who lived with bipolar disorder did.
The book is not boring to read especially because she uses words we can easily understand, and above all her own story as a case study. I appreciate her authenticity and vulnerability, and support her overall aim of fighting stigma surrounding mental illness and psychiatric medications. I follow her blog Mental Health at Home, and will recommend both her book and blog to everyone.
Thank you so much Ashley my heroine for writing such a long over due book. In my country, there is still such a pervasive culture of the doctor knows best, and the patient is just supposed to take them medication. Now, some patients and carers can start asking real questions while requesting for medication adjustments and re-adjustments.
About the Author
Ashley is a former pharmacist and currently works as a mental health nurse. I admire that she writes from a professional perspective and from a personal stance, as she lives with mental illness.
I really recommend this reference guide to anyone who takes psychotropic medication, has a loved one who does, or who works in the mental health field (counselors, social workers, healthcare providers, etc. – I am a psychotherapist and could refer clients to this book now of course hahahah)
Pre script: This is a close to 1500 word post, you may want to read it in parts, but trust me it is worth the read. I read this book almost a year ago at Darling Donna’s, and kept holding back from sharing my notes until now – I don’t also feel like sharing it in parts. fortunately this is the one but last post am sharing for the next 28 days
Your soul print is your spiritual signature. The people and places touched by your soul are imprinted with your mark, with your essence. Everywhere you walk in the world, you leave behind your beautiful, valuable, matchless print of your soul ( same concept as finger print).
Living our soul print can bring us profound connection to ourselves, to others and to God. People will walk with you- the more defined the path of your soul.
Finding your soul print part is the ultimate way to transcend loneliness and estrangement from yourself, others and God.
- Introduction to soul print
- definition and nature of soul print consciousness
- soul print calls – i.e soul’s vocation and how you can fulfill it- the ability to respond to the unique call of our soul is essential in achieving joy and fulfillment in the world.
- Soul print story – the magic that comes from living your own authentic, unique and sacred autobiography. Once you live your own story, you will no longer feel the desperate need to live in someone else’s and that the source of all jealousy that causes so much unhappiness in our lives.
Through telling, reclaiming and renewing your soul print story, you attract to yourself resources that help you live your story in the world.
Every human being is infinitely unique, dignified and valuable.
“The struggle with the mistakes of my past has only deepened my knowledge of and faith in God as well as in myself.”
We can swing our lanterns but for them to illuminate our way they must be lit.
The more our soul print connects, the sharper our signatures and the more sustained and expansive our souls will be.
The gift of loneliness
Magically, just by the act of naming, we are able to dispel some of the darkness in our lives, we have for long denied. Then we can move towards the light. What drives us in this world is our attempt to move from our loneliness to a place of relationship, connection, and loving; after all is said and done, after all our self realization and accomplishment, our self-esteem and degrees, our meaning making and our financial success, we still feel lonely. Jung said one does not become enlighten by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious. There are different types of lonely
- lonely even in a big party
- lonely though married
- lonely as a single with no partner
- lonely because you feel irrelevant insignificant…
and Jung asserts that loneliness for him is the inability to share the essence of who I am my soul print with another. Soul prints give evidence to our individual beauty. Your beauty includes everything that is you. Your weaknesses, your strengths, your pathologies and your dreams. Joyous is one who believes that he has a unique destiny a soul print. To believe is not to believe that ‘it’ is true, but that ‘i’ am true. When you live your soul print you experience your truth and are thus freed from the need to affirm your truth by believing in an external set of dogmas. When you are doing an activity which makes all the difference in the world.
* Be careful of labels and letters
When we hold on to labels and self definitions, we refuse to treat ourselves as full humans with infinite potentials.
When we give them to other people, or types of people, we estrange ourselves from other people’s soul print. Labels are the arc enemy of soul prints. Relying on them is like trying to take someone’s finger print when he is wearing a band aid. Labels control and suffocate the soul instead of nurturing the soul print.
*Five positive I can statements vs five negative I can’t statements
How many did you hear from someone?
* Why are you lonely
- You have a reception problem, you can’t find another who will receive your soul print;
- you have a perception problem, you don’t perceive yourself as unique or believe you have a soul print. Your soul print remains unrecognised even and especially by yourself;
- You have a transmission problem, you have someone to receive that soul print you perfectly perceive but you haven’t learnt to communicate it to this person.
* Three ways we can transcend our profound loneliness through the work our soul prints call us to
- Receiving the soul print of others
- Believing or perceiving our soul prints
- Communicating our soul prints to others.
RECEIVE IN GRATITUDE AWE AND LOVE
Soul print consciousness invites each of us in our closest relation, to receive our loved ones as they are and not only as we might want them to be. If someone is able to receive your adult self but can’t receive your child self, then you will remain lonely for your soul print has not been received;
* FIRST OWN YOUR LONELINESS
To be intimate with yourself is to know your uniqueness and to be intimate with another is to share your uniqueness. We can bring God flowers. Spontaneous and premeditated acts of kindness, little and large acts of kindness and caring, bring divinity to life in the details. The greatest gift you can give to a significant order is to receive an act of love- and deep inside us, we know that a person who doesn’t need anyone else is actually less developed, less perfect and less powerful than a person who has needs and who can acknowledge those needs.
The more intricate the pattern of your soul print, the more difficult it is for it to be understood and received by others. The deeper, the more nuanced your experience, the fewer people you can share it with, that is the risk of depth. Yet when a profound soul print sharing thus happen it is all the more powerful and gorgeous.
*TO RECEIVE ANOTHER’S SOUL PRINT YOU MUST BELIEVE IN YOUR OWN FIRST
Soul print hints can be sudden and cataclysmic or slow and subtle. Slow and subtle soul print hints are live events, places and images that happen over and over. They are patterns in life that points you in a particular direction e.g running into the same person often, same dynamic at work, same types of relationships, dreams, movies, songs, plays, places, longings, illnesses etc. which we occur over extended or repeated number of time. And may have underlined teams, coded messages, or may be thinly veiled warnings or guide posts along your path. What calls you? Beyond our important tights with any important community, we must all create and undertake our own spiritual journey. It is the faith of our unique life/ calling like that of no other.
* To be called is to have a message to deliver; a song to sing, an instrument to play, we are messengers each with that piece of the message and we are that piece of the message to.
* You can be called to work in a specific area in your personal growth, it must not be a public call or affair to the extent where we forget that our own growth, our own learning and the healing of our particular soul may well be our purpose in the world. Every soul has its own lessons to learn, its own healing to undergo and its own wisdom to share. To identify your special place of healing and learning must be the most important part of learning your call.
* We need to create our own opportunities, open our own portals to possibilities and transformation. Once we open the door, even a crack, the universe may open all gates for us. The first step in the soul print test needs to be our own.
Every moment in time, every encounter with a face, is a soul print invitation, we were born to accept those invitations. Every person we meet in a significant meeting possesses a piece of our story. Some people may have a sentence, others a missing word, while still others may hold a paragraph or even a whole chapter. Significant meetings involves soul print encounters, of course the ultimate soul print encounter is with your significant other in life your soul print partner. The person you choose should be the person who can return to you a significant piece of your story which you have lost, disconnected from or ever imagined you could possibly have. Same conversely, a soul print encounter is in no sense limited to romantic partners nor has soul print encounters limited to long term connections within our fixed pattern of being. If you can understand your life as the process of unfolding your soul print then the passage of time can bring great joy to you as well. You will know what to do, the key is to do something. The soul print is in the details.
BOOK REVIEW: ‘WHAT IS THE WORST CASE SCENARIO? BY MARIE A. ABANGA
The memoir ‘What is the worst case scenario’ is a refined reality of life which I believe is a must read for every aspirant person seeking relief from the strong fears of life.
I am heavily inspired by the wordings of Winston Churchill in the foreword of this book found in page 18 wherein he says ‘Never give up, never give in. Never. Never. Never’.
The Preface introduces the memoir proper and brings out the worst case scenario to be the aspect of FEAR of what people will say, or do; defining fear meaning we should fold everything and run; face everything and rise; or false emotions appearing real.
The first chapter dubbed ‘The fear of staying’ opens up with the author describing how she had a mental hostage as she was growing up and the fear of staying was eminent and so the mind probably makes a mental note ‘you don’t want to stay, well you just try your best to cope hoping for the opportunity to escape’. The author describes various levels of her escape mechanisms which kick starts with her being enrolled in a boarding school, followed by the breakdown of her parents’ marriage, she further envisions marriage to be the best escape-she describes it as a wonderful refuge. She manifests her fear of staying broader when even before the Mayor, they argue on the matrimonial regime to opt for. Her fears to stay could solely be consoled in the arms of other men. She concludes by saying her problem was overcoming the fear of leaving, and not getting defeated by that fear which was threatening to make me hostage for the rest of her life.
The second chapter dubbed ‘The fear of leaving’ opens up with the author describing fear as such a terrible thing which can make you a prisoner right in your own bed. Hence, she had to leave her father’s house with her brother because her dad and his new wife were becoming unbearable. After an eight years hiatus, the author regained a prodigal daughter status and she and her dad were ‘seemingly happy’ in her own words though she now had two additional siblings and a third one on course. After the third step-sibling was born, lack of ‘personal resources ‘other than a ‘disturbed mind’, got her to ‘hang’ around some more years at her mum’s. The author got two sons after losing her first pregnancy and loosing another child at birth, then since her marriage was more of lip service, she asks herself if she could leave? This got to a stage where she took a knife and wanted to commit suicide and leave this world with its headaches. She closes up her fear of leaving by a choice to fold everything and run as she often did and then to eventually face everything and rise.
The third chapter dubbed ‘the fear of losing’ describes the greatest fear of losing to be that of losing your mind. She still figured out what to do to be suicidal as a fake wife, a loser, a miserable woman and a sham of a mother. The search for solace found her in marriage seeking refuge. Her fears to lose her esteem, marriage and reputation became primordial in her mind. Her years spent in Belgium were actually necessary for her personal journey towards emotional and mental wellbeing.
The fourth chapter –‘The fear of failing’ Opens up with her expressing her inability to see, face or talk to her lecturer and also her inability to study and work hard with severe skepticisms of her course outline. This made her to earn poor grades in school and had to resit her exams. she narrates her freshman experience as she goes in for her LL.M programme in Belgium to study International Law with International Relations. She encountered hearing problems in following up classes and had to get a Sesame Hearing Aid. She sees failure inevitable but decides to face her fears of failing when it comes knocking as a learning curve onwards. She describes all failures be it emotional, mental, professional, spiritual and otherwise as learning curves if we all exhale and inhale in all humility and modesty before resitting the lessons. The author further shares some 30 quotes which she googled about failure which in summery tries to tell us that no great success was ever achieved without failure as failure is seen as a stepping stone to achieve our dreams. Hence, like the great Barrack Obama says ‘You can’t let failure define you – you have to let your failure teach you. You have to let them show you what to do differently the next time’. A quote which the author got from chapter five of Abraham Mutwol’s book titled ‘The 26 Inspiring Life Lessons from Barrack Obama….’This chapter in brief aims at saying you may encounter many defeats but you must not be defeated…as nothing will work unless you do. The author concludes this chapter with a teaser question of us finding out what is the worst case scenario if we fail? There is a choice, either we fold everything and run away forever or we learn from the events, face everything and rise. The author chooses the second option conclusively.
The fifth chapter – ‘The fear of being loved’ opens up with a pondering question of whom in his ‘right’ senses and emotions fears being loved? She writes about her desire to be able to face everything and rise when any love like gentleman comes along. She commits herself to trust her instincts and reasons and not her emotions on their spur of a moment. She exposes the zeal to rise and thrive amidst difficulties. She exposes her unconventional loves wherein she felt loved in the most unconventional of those relationships. She expresses her earnest desire to be loved and narrates her story of love and later expresses her fears of rejection and abandonments. This chapter that talks more on her love life tales ends with her fears of one thing or the other always looming her mind.
The sixth chapter labeled ‘The fear of loving’ expresses her dilemma in her fear of loving, whether receiving or giving, what she calls philophobia which ranks high amongst unusual phobias. She defines philophobia as an unwarranted and an irrational fear of falling in love though often times the sufferer does fall in love but it causes an intense emotional turmoil in his or her mind. The nature and causes of philophobia all vary from case to case and sometimes, it is a real mystery as to why it might have occurred in the first place. She narrates the story of the queen of England who was philophobic and furthermore says the symptoms vary from individual to individual. Most revering is the fact that she concludes this most delicate and VIP chapters by resolving to face this fear of loving after researching much about it and desires her three musketeers read this and are not philophobic.
The seventh chapter – ‘The fear of stigma ‘ opens with the author expressing her dislike for friends who run after mentally deranged people and sing songs and sometimes throw stones when she was a kid. She exposes her beloved brother’s outpour of foamy saliva today known as epilepsy as a stigma. She exposes the society for stigmatizing people’s bad mental states which can lead to seeking suicide as an option; but advocates that we should not give in to the fear of stigma maybe because we may be branded or marginalized. With a refusal to give in to fear, the author consciously decided to stigmatize stigma. She hails efforts done in this regard like that of Greg Mercer in his story titled A Nurse with a mental Illness; My story.
She further tells us how stigma kills people daily and if we help keep stigma alive, we cause more pain and death. She shares the tale of her fair lady and heroine friend Dyane Leshin-Harwood who suffers from postpartum bipolar disorder in one of her posts with the caption ‘A Stigma of one’s Own’ and secondly ‘ Stigma from the source’. She ridicules self stigma which is accepting prejudiced perceptions held by others which can lead too the reluctance to seek treatment, excessive reliance on relatives, social withdrawal, poor self- worth and may lead to abuse of alcohol and drugs. She ends this chapter by resolutely deciding to advocate much for the marginalized in our societies and says what matters to her most is her legacy and what she leaves behind for her sons and the world at large.
Chapter eight dubbed ‘The fear of advocating’ talks of the author’s dreams of becoming a doctor or a lawyer and she has indeed ended up as a lawyer and a fierce mental health advocate too. She exposes how her beloved brother’s crisis is admittedly the catalyst for her daring advocacy to the point of accepting the huge task of being the country director for the Gbm foundation for epilepsy and mental wellbeing. The mental malady has four distinct stages namely 1-Mild symptoms and warning signs; 2-Symptoms increase in Frequency and severity and interfere with life activities and roles; 3-Symptoms worsen with relapsing and recurring episodes accompanied by serious disruption in life activities and roles and lastly number 4- symptoms are persistent and severe and have jeopardized one’s life. She concludes by resolutely adhering to advocate against all odds while alive.
Chapter nine which is the shortest and last chapter is dubbed ‘The fear of Dying’. It is all about nothing can delay or deny death when its time comes. She exposes her case of losing three siblings but conclusively resolves that the worst case scenario is that if you live, you will one day die. By Banda Banda, Douala, Cameroon
WHAT IS THE WORST CASE SCENARIO?
This is a fearful thought and is a question that lingers in every sub-conscious in the face of an impending uncertainty and danger.
Marie Abanga, Poet and senior Jurist, has dared to approach this question directly in her 103 paged book:
‘WHAT IS THE WORST CASE SCENARIO?’
She alone dares to fight the fear within by approaching this fear from different fronts
1. The fear of Staying
2. The fear of Leaving
3. The fear of Losing
4. The Fear of Failing
5. The fear of Being Loved
6. The fear of Loving
7. The fear of Stigma
8. The fear of Advocating
9. The fear of Dying
Marie is every other woman, a mother, daughter, sister, lover and friend. Her style and choice of words are unique and she uses her real life situations together with empirical evidence to attest to the fact that this fear is real. She insists on using the first person singular, I, just to let us, her readers know what one could actually mean when they say they have lived a life of constant fear.
In the same Memoir, she writes several deep letters to persons you might want to know of, talks about her adventures around the world. She propels courage to her readers by citing and bringing out the quotatioins of almost all the renowned big names you might know – John Wooden, Jack Canfield, Coco Chanel, Robert F. Kennedy, Janet Fitch and twenty five others.
Mental challenges are for real and they don’t discriminate. No one chooses such challenges and just the FEAR of being labelled or ‘discovered’ to be having them, can actually drive someone outright ‘crazy’.
The mental Health Activist, is conscious of what many others might be painfully and silently going through, and she will do all in her capacity to increase awareness about the importance of mental health, to enable the already affected find strength in whatever remains.
Ever since I got this book, my office work has been a nice ride. Nkwain John Paul Sam aka Genero, Douala Cameroon
Dyane Harwood’s memoir Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder with a foreword by Dr. Carol Henshaw (co-author of The Modern Management of Perinatal Psychiatry) is published by Post Hill Press this very October 10th 2017.
Hello World, today on this very special day, I mean very, very special day: Today is World Mental Health Day and the Birth of Dyane Harwood’s long awaited literary baby; I have the singular honour, pleasure and modesty to interview my dear friend, one I fondly call Lady D and The Captain – the author, dynamic wife and mother par excellence. I connected with Dyane early into my blogging adventures, and we have stayed friends since then. I still look forward to visiting Dyane in her corner of the Western Coast in the US, and take a “redwood bath” with her and her famous Scottish collie Lucy.
I salute Dyane’s courage to go through with it and not give up. Dyane is equally a seasoned author and has written for the Huffington Post, SELF Magazine, BP (Bipolar) Magazine, and more. With this said, I’ll interview her for your reading pleasure and let her tell us more about herself and her life journey, mindful of her postpartum bipolar disorder diagnosis.
1) The Profile
1. Let’s Start with a brief introduction of yourself – your background – and a tiny bit about your Childhood:
Hello, my dear friend Lady Marie! I grew up in Los Angeles, California with my brother Martin and of course a dog – an Irish Setter named Amber! We had two very loving parents and many blessings; however, it was a difficult childhood as my father had bipolar one disorder and his mental illness took its toll on our family.
2. About your Memoir, how did you come up with the title – you must admit it is one of its kind?
I love my title! Originally I titled the book Quest for Rest because when I began writing it in 2007, I was manic and hypergraphic (which is excessive compulsive, writing associated with bipolar mania and epilepsy, of all things, Marie!) — later on, I switched titles because I no longer felt attached to Quest for Rest. Birth of a New Brain simply popped into my mind and felt right.
2) The Soul Journey
1. I lost my only brother to bipolar disorder and its complications – hence I dread the word and diagnosis; what’s your take on that word?
I cannot STAND the word “bipolar”! I agree with Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison, the author of the classic memoir An Unquiet Mind, who prefers “manic depression.” I think that term describes the mood disorder so much better than “bipolar”ever could. It’s just a really dumb word and to be honest, I have problems saying it out loud.
2. How did you get your diagnosis and how have you fared since that diagnosis?
In 2007, approximately six weeks postpartum, I voluntarily admitted myself into the local psychiatric unit as I was manic. I was diagnosed at that unit and it took me seven years to find the right medications to help me. During that time I went through two phases in which I tried to live without medications; one of those phases involved a very slow, systematic tapering schedule that I had researched before undertaking it. I do not want to sound like a drama queen, but I almost died after each attempt to live meds-free. However, some people can live with bipolar and stay stable without taking medications.
3. How have you been coping with your mental illness and yet still been able to function at times enough to write and publish?
The book has been the most challenging project of my life. When I finally secured a publisher, I found the entire process was far more difficult than I had imagined. I coped fairly well although I ate a ton of sweets and gained 15 pounds despite using Lose It! And exercising! My medications and having a stable, loving family complete with Lucy the Scottish Collie/Writing Muse enabled me to get through it all.
3) The Writing
1. Did any books/memoirs influence your writing (style, presentation, content)?
Oh yes! Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison’s memoir and books by Madeleine L’Engle (A Wrinkle in Time) and L.M. Montgomery (Anne of Green Gables) have influenced my writing, but there are many other books that affected me too! I have a list of some of them in the book’s appendix section.
2. Did you have a writing mentor?
Wendy K. Williamson (author of the bestseller I’m Not Crazy Just Bipolar and the co-author of 2 Bipolar Chicks Guide to Survival) believed in my writing, and she inspired me to “go for it” in terms of sending my proposal to publishers.
3. Which was the most difficult chapter to write in your memoir and why?
That’s a great question. I’d definitely say the “One Pill Can Kill” chapter about how taking one Elavil (amitriptyline) pill made me acutely suicidal and when I realized what was happening to me, I asked to be taken to the emergency room at the hospital. I won’t go into other details (and I don’t go much into them in the book because I felt there were plenty of books about that topic already – it didn’t seem necessary) but I also want to say that this specific medication works well for other people! We all know medications affect every person differently…thus the need for caution when trying a new medication and have someone on hand to observe your reaction to it if it all possible!!!
To be cont’d tomorrow, kindly visit again…
If there is one thing I know,that is very difficult to tell some other person,talkless of “truth”.
I must congratulate the author for this heart pouring exercise she has embarked on. Telling the world your story and giving a damn about “what people will say” about her personality, her work(s), is aplaudable.
The book and other works of hers, acts as an eye opener to me and I quess to a lot more people in the world;
The way I look at and how to help a sufferer;
How I can join the author and many others in the world to advocate for mentally sick persons;
How I can contribute to campaign against stigmatization.
Barrister Marie A. Abanga,is giving a positive light to all who let FEAR conquer them. She is encouraging us all that our fears are just False Emotions Appearing Real and as such, we should not Fold Everything and Run. Rather, we should Face Everything and Rise.
Indeed, ”Abanga Marie was here; she lived; she loved; she was here” and the world will remember her for such unconditional love and efforts shown to humanity.
The question to me and to you out here is
*what have you offer?
PLAY YOUR ROLE POSITIVELY,and help HUMANITY.
Ndzo Ethel Fonjie
P.S: Today has been a tough day because I am sad at the current bloodshed in my country and somehow couldn’t focus enough to get through my todolist for the day. I spent time reading and listening to helpful podcasts and tried to do a little you know. This book review just came in to make my day. I am very grateful to Ethel and all who have read my books and gotten back to me through any medium
Hello world, call it review fever if you please: but, this girl here reads books like you’d drink milk lol; and she likes to share her thoughts on those books when they get to her soul. For me to start a new week with a book review speaks for itself – that is if the title of the book doesn’t do it enough justice.
Let me just dash in, this because on a Monday morning we all want to get it started and off to the maximum we can before the ‘blues’ set in right? I mean this is one of the many powerful things I learnt in this book (I never knew I could fall in love with a self help book), you can zap from ‘freaking out to freaking amazing’ with determination and dedication. You may need help but it is possible. You will need to be authentic and confident always, and know today if you never did or were not sure of it, that your vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness. Come on now give me more vulnerable situations…anytime anywhere…exploit them and let them catapult you to speak up, stand out and shine… I mean why settle for victim and throw all those endless pity parties while people around you who may have even gone through worst are now making a healthy and wealthy living sharing their stories?
Now, have you heard of power dance? Regina introduces this in her book. Give it a try, musn’t be an entire song and that can be anywhere anytime. And when you are one of those I used to be…you know the one who will shake and panic and worry about all what will, would, could go wrong right up to outright freezing on the podium, be it because you forgot your message or one ‘vampire’ in the audience shot you that ‘stare’; you will witness a radical and permanent transformation after reading this book.
All in all, this book is not only for those starting out into their speaking journies whichever category, but also for those of us some where in between. I give this book a 5 star because I honestly feel Regina wrote way too much to get anyone even in elementary school to be able to speak up, stand out and shine.
About Regina Huber
Regina Huber, is the Founder & CEO of Transform Your Performance http://www.transformyourperformance.com
Drawing from my extensive corporate experience in six countries, I have developed a top Transformational Leadership Practice for Business Women, and I am now known as a Power Shifter and Career Accelerator, Diversity & Co-Creation Advocate, Speaker with a Passion for Dance, and Author of Speak up, Stand out and Shine – Speak Powerfully in Any Situation, as seen in this Huffington Post article:
With her signature system, Powerful Leadership Transformation (PLT), she works with companies to transform top female performers into top leaders so they can make a bigger impact and generate more business for companies, clients, and themselves. With her guidance, organizations can unlock the strengths of the talent they already have, to cut down on turnover costs. Regina focuses on driving fast results for her coaching clients by emphasizing an empowering mindset and a compelling, confident presence, enabling them to accelerate their careers, while making an outstanding contribution to their organizations.
She speak five languages and has over 18 years of international experience in the corporate business world, including management positions at The Boston Consulting Group in the U.S., Europe, and Latin America, where my primary focus was on HR; career & performance management; training & talent development; operations & budgeting; and office build-outs. At BCG, she also had a leading role in opening two new offices in Portugal and Brazil, as well as several international projects throughout Europe and Latin America. As an entrepreneur, She has owned two businesses in Argentina and Brazil, and has translated 12 books on dance, culture, politics and science. Her eclectic background allowed her to develop a special skill set that flows into herunique transformational approach.
She is a Certified Leadership Ambassador by Take The Lead Women and serve as Co-Chair of the NYC Financial Women’s Association’s (FWA) Distinguished Speakers Committee. It is her honor to be a trusted advisor of UN Global Champion for Women’s Empowerment in Entrepreneurship Alysia Silberg’s Fireside Chat and Pitch Camp communities for global entrepreneurs, and a leading member of Alysia’s Global Women Game Changers group. Studying Judith Glaser’s “C-IQ for Coaches” Program (Creating WE Institute) has allowed her to enhance her current focus on co-creation and to coach team leaders to navigate successfully through conversation. She am also a Premier member of Women Speakers Association (WSA) and a member of West Coast Speakers Coalition.
P.S: Ok world, I stop at that, Ms Huber’s profile is clearly longer than my review of her book and am jealous. I have already audited with her you know, and I will be signing up to be coached by her once a fortune cookie is left by my office …