Call for female Participants for a Mental Health Matters study

Call to female participants for a research study on my Mental Health Matters Campaign
Dear female participant, you are invited to participate in a research study by myself on the impact of the “Mental Health Matters” campaign I ran on Facebook, LinkedIn and World Pulse from 2018 – 2020.
I am interested to know the impact of this campaign on the mental health of women specifically, and the research study will be done through questionnaires, interviews and focus groups.
Your responses to the questions will be kept confidential. Each participant will be assigned a number code to help ensure that personal identifiers are not revealed during the analysis and write up of findings.
There is no compensation for participating in this study. However, your participation will be a valuable addition to our research and findings could lead to greater public understanding of the mental health care and support of women.
If you are willing to participate please suggest a day and time that suits you to be contacted, and I’ll do my best to do so. If you have any questions please do not hesitate to ask.
Thank you
Marie Angele Abanga
Commonwealth Scholar University of Lancaster   
Tel/Whatsapp +237 698 914 754

Hmm seems Facebook Juju got my moral values & co too right lol

My Moral Codes

Now, for those who don’t about Facebook ‘Juju’, it is those links which you see every now and then asking you to take a ‘face reading’ sort of, by their ‘mediums’ lol. I mean what can I tell you other than that yours truly has been taking some of those ‘face readings’ and the results are quite impressive?

Last Wednesday I shared some, when announcing a ‘huge social project’ in the pipeline. It’s all about keeping the Hope alive in myself and humanity.

So ‘Facebook Juju’ not only got the moral values right, but also something about what people notice the first time they meet me, and em also that am someone special lol

Now, I wish I had those links saved so I could share for someone to maybe go try their luck? Would that be wrong to do? I don’t really know o. I am however happy with my results – and o that were free face readings hahaha. Sometimes your mental wellbeing gets some boost from where least expected. These make me really feel like a princess.

Have a great weekend everyone

Posted in Coaching and Therapy, Marie's Garden, Mental Health Advocacy

My Prayer and Affirmation Wall 2 Inspire some…


Hello World, am inspired to share something close to my heart which helps me every day, morning and night to stay grounded irrespective of any circumstances. The above is my prayer and affirmation wall just above my bed. The lighting is sort of dim because I have a ‘green coloured’ bulb in there. That colour green, is my favourite and so happens to be the mental health colour lol. It is soothing light to say the least and makes me love my room more – my serene space. Having that wall helps me introspect a lot each day as I wake up or prepare for bed. There you find my personal prayers I have written down this lane, some of my poems, some affirmation, gifts from the boys, and drawings from Gaby etc.

When I read for example the above appreciation note, I know even if I don’t feel so good or up to that day, I have and I am appreciated so I can’t be any hard on myself – I mean I should appreciate myself more right?

Indeed, it is that prayer and affirmation wall which led a cousin of mine to recommend the movie “War Room” to me. That movie is a soulful one and nothing to do with the violent war the world knows. If you have time, it is free on youtube and here is a link.

Be inspired by my journey dear world, and wish you find your own serene space…

Happy Midweek everyone

Posted in Book Reviews, Marie's Garden, Mental Health Advocacy

From Apprehension 2 Anticipation & Appreciation: My journey reading High Tide Low Tide…

Hi world, anybody who has visited my blog this past 10 days or so, may rightly think I am obsessed with this book. Yes I am, to a very large though healthy extent. I have never come across a book like this, one which stabbed my soul, made me cry and laugh and curse, and praise, and envy, and shun, deal and heal, and and and ad infinitum…

Yes, from initial acceptance to read and review the book; Apprehension crept in just after the introduction. Hmm, what can I tell you? It may not rock your boat so and that is the whole point – about mental illness. A few will care and many will care less.

But, and yes, the above book did rock my mind big time; I almost gave up reading the book and got different advice when I reached out for some here on my blog. Finally, I found five good reasons why I should read on.

Anticipation set in and I started being amused at the indepth of this particular reading trip. I didn’t want to hurry because I came to realize the book wasn’t so long and technical as I had apprehended. But, I equally didn’t want to be any slow because I anticipated some soul searching discoveries  (like what was the deal with doing laundry) and hopefully a happy ending. I wasn’t disappointed both ways.

Now, a little bit about my fascination with this book. I had a best friend as a child, my only brother with whom I learnt to play football and fight for in school…at age 11, he got epilepsy. He moved on, I was there but after a few years he was sent to Germany for further studies. He had brains…but the nurological disorder bashed those brains big time…fast forward USA June 2014, I finally learn he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a few years prior… I hate writing about this whole era  – HE DIED AUGUST 2, 2014 IN BOSTON (I thought publishing a whole book will lay it to rest…nada). So, dear readers, if you do some calculus and philosophize, plus the fact that am one who has been through her own share of shit, and have a few friends going through theirs, you will largely appreciate my fascination with the book.

I heartily congratulate and appreciate the authors and thank them for writing the book. I will do a formal review in the coming days, may be before or after I interview the authors…the book is mind you revealing of so much soul so I will see…

Posted in Marie's Garden

Honoured to receive the Ultimate Appreciation Award in Return

The Ultimate Appreciation Awards

One good turn it has been proven deserves another – is that or not? Well for me and this time around;  A good turn Ultimately does; and just did; Hurray!!!

So, exactly two Sundays ago, I decided to create my own award and nominated 7 incredible blogger friends and special friends of mine; they all generously accepted the award leaving soulful comments which near moved me to tears like in yesteryears when I was a cry baby lol!!!

Now, one of these special friends and ‘sister in-law’ of mine by virtue of the fact that she (black American) is married to a Cameroonian, my dearest Mimshe ( a name in the local dialect given her during an African ceremony in 2012, which means Patience – you go figure more about her), in addition to the comment, did an acceptance post on one of her blogs too. Now, that post is brief and beautiful, I so so loved its soulful flow (yes I love the words Soul, Soulful and Soul Searching/healing/loving etc etc lol lol lol).

Mimshe (Yvette is her first name) in return, nominated me for this same award. Read her larger than life words:

“I nominate Marie Abanga. She is a kind soul, an avid reader, lawyer, mental health advocate and life coach in the country of Cameroon. She loves blogging about a variety of issues all from the heart.  She also is a supporter of people and their vision to succeed in life”.  

Ain’t that thrilling and very generous? How often are you nominated in return for the same award you give others? I have always appreciated when I bring someone a gift of say a good bottle of wine and they opens that up and offers me half a glass you know, instead of stacking that away for say a more ‘befitting ocassion’ (if that don’t happen out there, it is custom here lol). Ok back to the rules of the award, I made them and will answer same below – hoping to make it brief and beautiful too like Mimshe’s hahaha – let’s see…

Here are the three questions Marie (and now Mimshe)  would like for me to answer. My responses are written in pink (well she chose pink and I stick with that – oops pink on a white background guess not the best so I go for another colour – em purple it’ll be).

Share 1 or 2 or 3 childhood memories with us.

I really miss childhood (stole lead from Mimshe – but seriously I do) – too.  It was a time of reckless abandon  (stolen)  – for various reasons.  Some memories are playing ’till the cows came home’ (is that the expression?) with all my different kind of neighbourhood buddies and my brother Gabriel when he came along – as in when he was born – he was a stay at home boy lol.  

I also miss this period when I was not as aprehensive about the present or future, when my brother hadn’t started having seizures, when my mum and dad were still together and well I knew somehow they were there even if… (now melancholy will set in if I go on, so I stop at this)…

Share 1 or 2 turning points in your life.

A turning point in my life came after the death of my brother (for Mimshe it was her mother, so I stole again somehow?).  I thought – I don’t know why I thought if any of us Siblings was to die first it should be me – I mean with the life I had lived and faced and played around with? Then he the gentle and genius and all was to be the one to get epilepsy and be diagnosed with bipolar disorder? I had to ‘come clean’ after he was burried.  

Even before my brother died in 2014, one ultimate and frankly the biggest turning point in my life was in 2009 when I attempted suicide with a knife – 5 months pregnant. You don’t go through such an experience and then go back to business as usual period!!! 

Share some words of wisdom or otherwise about blogging as you have experienced it.

Blogging is not as intimidating as it seems (Theft again but what can I tell you?).  The hard part is starting (Mimshe forgive me but I do agree with this too).  After that, the rest is a matter of writing from the heart or your niche (and this too).  Pretty soon, it will become a routine habit that is stress relieving, fun, personal and sometimes time consuming (oh and this too) Ok, let me add something from me; when you want to build a network, do visit other blogs, like, comment, and follow for real and not just to attract others to you. Some may come and then smell the bait and drop you like a hot potato (I have done this and had it done to me too), and know it musn’t be mutual as in not all you follow will or must follow you back etc etc. 

And here I am, I know nothing brief about my post, just hope it is ‘BEAUTIFUL’… Thank you so much Mimshe, I am ordering her book For the Love of Cameroon right now… Happy Sunday to us all.

Posted in Marie's Garden

The Ultimate Appreciation Award

The Ultimate Appreciation Award

Hello world, last week and indeed since I started blogging in November 2013, I have received so many awards, and always wondered if and when I could give out an award too. I have therefore, em unanimously, decided to give out my own created award: The Ultimate Appreciation Award to the following bloggers in appreciation of their support to my modest person both directly and indirectly during my blogging journey. Now, because I know many of their blogs are “Award Free Zones”, my award is a “Rules’ Free Award”. Your acceptance of this award via a comment in the comments section will suffice. However, if anyone of you wants to do an acceptance post and pass this on even to myself lol, feel free to do so and while at it, here are 3 questions I’ll will be honoured if you answer same:

  1. Share 1 or 2 or 3 childhood memories with us;

  2. Share 1 or 2 turning points in your life;

  3. Share some words of wisdom or otherwise about blogging as you have experienced it,

My Nominees and my why…

  1. June Whittle over at Miraculous Ladies, Divine Copywriter and Co. Junie as I fondly call her is my Jamaican Heroine in London. Indeed, she is now one of my sisters from a different mother. I have blogged about her and my visit to her serene space and yummy Goat stew and peas and all, and while you are here, check out her poetry book so soulful and her BBC Interview

  2. Dyane Leshin-Harwood over at Proudly Bi-Polar. Dyane or Lady Di as I call her, is also my captain over at Lose It. She and I have a special bond and baddass – she knows what am talking about and she is another of my heroines. Her voice was soothing and I am praying I get to visit the US and her own coast so as to ‘Redwoods bathe’ with her and in the meantime I anxiously wait for the official release of her epic memoir

  3. Pamela Spiro-Wagner over at Wagblog Dum Spiro Spero!!! I simply don’t know what to write and what to leave out about Pammy as I fondly call her. She is more than a mum to me, a soul sister and much more – she inspires me to the moon and back, read the post I did about her here and seriously visit her blog if you want to know first hand what or how someone can live with a diagnosis of schizophrenia (go through all she’s been through) for over 4 decades, and still be the author, poet, artist and all she is…

  4. Kitt O’Malley over at Kitt O’Malley. Kitt is a a strong woman in every respect. To be going what she is going through (with herself, her son’s own issues and her parents) and still holding it, while finding time every now and then to share with others either via her blog, or on ours through her likes and comments, or as a volunteer and etc, is simply put amazing. I sincerely appreciate her comments on the Gbm Blog where I hardly get any…

  5. Doctor Jonathan over at All about Healthy Choices. Since I found his blog, I appreciate life and the choices I make more. So much information, such a selfless man, and he gives advice freely if only you’d ask as simple as that. I am so grateful for the few emails we’ve had, his concern about anything health and above all his hosting me once as a guest on his awesome blog…

  6. Buffalo Tom Peabody&Team over at buffalotompeabody’s blog. His or rather their blog is the spot to unwind after a hectic day. You read maybe about the next century or decade or the reverse; the current global or rather US instigated, enhanced or quelled rigmarole and much more – em without threat of fire or fury. I sincerely wish I had more time to read this blog as often as I’d love to. However, whenever I hop by I leave with a replenished Laugh Gauge…

  7. Yvette R. Toko is my last but the not the least blogger I appreciate all the way home to Cameroon hurray. Her blog which let me to another kindred spirit is so glamorously titled – guess – bam bam bam: For the Love of Cameroon. She is a dynamic, passionate, God Fearing, oh I wish I could write down all those adjectives and more; kindly check out her book for the love of Cameroon on the Amazon

    Dear all, wishing you a happy Sunday and thanking you for your prayers and kind thought following my request of yesterday. It is improving.

Posted in Journey to Coaching, Marie's Garden, My Heroines

Benedicta my heroine in Wum

Benedicta so carefree as she leads me to the village spot for fetching water 

Hello world, happy midweek. Here I come again with another thrilling post of a heroine I met all the way in Wum – North West Region of Cameroon – Yes the same place I met my hero and teacher Erico. Meeting all my heros and heroines are definitely part of my journey here below, experiences I so appreciate and am grateful for, and the lessons learnt cum memories will definitely help me tremendously in my coaching and motivational speaker career. When does that officially kick off only the Master Lord knows… In the meantime, follow me and my heroine Benedicta as we go around the village.

How it all started

Aunty let me go and carry it for you her tiny self said! You still look so tired and there are many children there!

My Lovely Afro Wig is souvenir now, there was I on arrival straight; from that red car filled with 8 people and 2 babies

Hmm, I wanted some water for my evening bath but I sure didn’t want small Benedicta to go carry it for me. You see, when I got to the village by noon that day, I was in dire need of a bath, having travelled from Douala my city all night to Bamenda, and then all morning in another small and jam packed car from Bamenda to Wum. The second distance of 50 kms lasted three hours  (hope you understand the state of such a road). I was brought water by an adult in law of mine but when I realized there was no running water in the compound, I decided after a while to go fetch that I’ll use at night. The water in that village is cold to the extend that when you bathe with it, you either catch a fever or are healed of one period.

But Benedicta I asked, why can’t I go with you and carry my own myself? If you can go so too can I right?

Almost 15 minutes later we were still going to the spot and I was definitely slowing Benedicta down

At last, we seemed to have arrived because I spotted this:

Mainly Kids go fetch water I as she had warned

I realized the beautiful water tank or whatever it looked like, was built by their Member of Parliament. Our government had better priorities than providing such basic amemnities to the whole country. And yet, the taps on that thing weren’t even running – HA!

Between January and 15-02-2017 it was already looking so upbeat, rust and the taps didn’t run

I didn’t have to ask any questions, I just followed Benedicta to a nearby spot

Sort of a local dam

See how the water flows, talk of patience being a virtue! And I couldn’t bully all those children right? So I waited. And then I started to think of the way back, but when I saw Benedicta smiling and chating with all those other kids, I relaxed. Wwe finally fetched our water and we headed back home as you can see below


Once home, my heroine quickly offered that we go again – Euh  –  emm I give Benedicta some money to buy herself a lolipop on the way and quickly dash off to join the other women prepare food to cook in one of our warm village kitchens


If you were in my place and given my age, will you go for a second round? Isn’t Benedicta so sweet? 

Wishing us all a happy new Month

Posted in From Around!, Marie's Garden

The Mystery Blogger Award: What an awesome Birthday gift

Am I any mysterious? Hahaha
Am I any mysterious? Hahaha

Wow, Hello World, I am a whole year older+2 days and I feel good… so good… I mean how better can it get to receive a mystery blogger award ? I thought I had received all sorts of awards out there, even thought to paste it up front that this blog was henceforth award free… but truth be told, who doesn’t like recognition, appreciation even if it be outright flattery ? Well I do, and am diving head on into this award game once again – I mean even if only for the reading and regaling pleasure of my Cameroonian Sister Ngumabi who nominated me. Look, she is also the first of my Cameroonian sisters or bloggers to offer me a blogging award. But then, what is this whole mystery stuff about ? I asked her  (and she’s super excited since this is her first award), and then I read her own nomination post – I copy and paste some of that to spare us some nods 🙂


“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging and they do it with so much love and passion.
Okoto Enigma (creator of The Mystery Blog Award)


1. Put the award logo/image on your blog
2. List the rules.
3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
6. You have to nominate 10 – 20 people
7. Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
9. Share a link to your best post(s)
#Now let’s talk about me#

Three things about me:

  1. I decided in May 2011 to speak my truth henceforth regardless of the price – so far so good though it sure costs a lot sometimes;
  2. My boys and my cat keep me going above all else – I hardly can hold down any anger in thei presence;
  3. I am a hopeless passionate and romantic girl, sometimes I just don’t wanna get too close to any situation which may warrant my being me

Answers to Ngumabi’s Questions

1. Is blogging a profession or just a hobby?
A hobby oh my dear – remember me the hopeless passionate?
2. Funny question: Which is your favourite fairy tale story?
Cinderella – really wish I were she or maybe somebody’s fairy God Mother?
3. What is your best advice for handling criticism?
Ignore them – Haters gonna Hate – Keep doing your thing and let them criticise until their graves!
4. What surprising lessons have you learned along the way?
Life is indeed simple, love can fluctuate, Hope should be constant, Faith is fabulous, gratitude is golden, charity has harvests you can’t imagine!
5. What do you want your legacy to be? How do you want to be remembered?
I did a blog post on that on the eve of this new year: That I lived and Loved – & I loved and Lived
Aw dearest Ngumabi, thank you for the nomination. I did this for you, but am afraid I can’t follow all the rules to the letter. I can’t nominate as required, many of those I know don’t do these awards stuffs – see we past that “age” hahaha. You keep doing your thing ok girl… see you someday I mean it 🙂 And yes my best blog post is: And wow I found Love
And now to you my gentle readers and followers, anyone is welcome to regal themselves and any of us who will hop by with accepting my open nomination 🙂 – you can devise your own questions if you chose too 🙂
Posted in Journey to Coaching, Marie's Garden

Could I have been this thin…?

I used to be this fat April 2010
I used to be this fat April 2010

oh I also found this dating from 2006:

December 2006
December 2006

Hello all,

Let me begin this post of mine with the two lone pictures I have left of the ‘yummy looking years’. I wish I had more, especially one which showed me at my apex scale of 115 kgs. But helas, when I fled my marriage and the country altogether, those stuffs stayed behind and I gather on my return that there was a big burnfire… Am still trying to rebuild the mini library I left there…

Ok here is a sort of timeline of my thiness 🙂

Well, let’s do so some fast forward to 2014, because I now admit I was worriyingly anorexic inclined in 2012/2013 – when I look at pictures from then, I see why mum was worried… I had stopped eating simple and period…

Belgium 2014

And the next year –  2015

England 2015
England 2015

And the next – 2016, precisely saturday 05.11.16

With my crew, going to check the town out
With my crew, going to check the town out

This is what I gather: Yes, I could have been this thin and at other times that fat…

Life has taught me so much, I have lived so many different experiences and the toll has been physical, psychological, mental, emotional and above all spiritual…

Body weight or mass is near often not always to do about what we see…

One of my lessons is this: Live and Love the prethoughand enjoy as much as I can…

I now smile at my ‘yummy me years’, when I could just eat me some comfort chocolates and care less about tracking calories or who will say what… I love cooking and so when my marriage was going roller down, I spent me time at home cooking and well… what do you do with the food no one comes back home to eat?

Today, I enjoy trying to stay in my new shape although it still troubles mum a bit that I don’t want to add at least 5 more kgs. Hahaha, that’s though because I am already committed to my wondrous group on Lose it

To all in the house who will read this… I just want to in my usual personal self, encourage each of us in our journeys. It’s definitely much more to do than with being this thin or that fat, but sometimes that physical appearance makes a difference especially when your health is at stake. Trust me on this one I did 2 years of ill health…

Here’s to a great week for all