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Formally introducing Marie Abanga the Clinical Psychologist and CBT Therapist


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How Grateful can I really be? Oh my oh my

 

Hello World,

It is getting more elaborate what I am up going to be up to in the second leg of my journey here on earth. I hope my God gives me an full opportunity to do all He is giving the Grace and Talents to do already so far.

One of the most awesome things I have undertaken and will be furthering my studies in, is clinical psychology alongside with CBT Therapy. It is possible to do and be all you dream of, and if you fall short of all that you will land in some place you’ll still appreciate and be very grateful for.

I am celebrating this other milestone with its own dedicated website, hmm am grateful for the sleepless nights in Belgium setting up my blog. The website is tougher but I could manage quiet some and did got some help too.

It is still a work in progress of course, but this is what I got so far and will seriously appreciate candid feedback.

Here is the address lol: https://www.marieabanga.com/

I am leaving the office now for a well deserved weekend, be inspired and motivated someone

Have a fabulous weekend us all

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My once in a life time opportunity at the lone Psychiatric Ward as a clinical psychotherapist


 

 

Hi World, when you dare to follow your passion, with persistence and perseverance, it is a deep sense of fulfillment all the way – all the time. I bash you not but I am learning, loving and sharing so much in this once in a life time opportunity at the lone psychiatric ward in our city of Douala, Cameroon.

Needless to scare you with grueling details on say the numbers we receive each day, the number of shrinks available leaving out anything psychologist or therapist… nor the condition and resources of the ward… I got two months running from April 2nd – June 2nd 2018 and for that I simply put honoured, humble and happy. One of the first patients I saw wrote me a love letter on the eve of his departure and just yesterday another told me he was sad I was too beautiful for him. I mean isn’t this worth it?

You know, it wasn’t easy picking up psychology studies after I completed my CBT Training obtaining the first ever DISTINCTIONS note in my entire academic pursuit. But, and indeed, I was so motivated by this score and took an online diploma in psychology, dedicating close to 13 tough hours spread over two weeks, to have a merits score of 88%. Well there was lots of reading background too right? Anyway, below is what my records show:

Learner-Verification-Diploma in Psychology
Sharing just to inspire and motivate

I was now ready to for the once in a life time opportunity at the lone public psychiatric ward in my city, and considering the journey to get that opportunity, not even a nagging swollen eye nor any discouragement from ‘friends and foes’ could blur my vision.

I will just share a small portion of an email I sent to my soul family after two weeks at the ward:

April 20th: I call them my friends, I meet them before reading their records, most if not all have pure hearts marred by etc

Simply put, I am the first therapist seen there and I am fortunate to do it my own way. I am personal – calling names and not bed/room numbers; and I greeted and hugged a 19 year old girl and it meant the world to her. (She’s moved on to be my first ever private client, she is doing so well already and gladly her meds were revised … to read she’d been diagnosed with Schizrophrenia almost broke my heart)
Sadly, the meds culture is invading here and I have seen some zombies. But, many families don’t keep their patients here for more than a week because they don’t have money.
There is also quiet a high amount of addiction cases and I have already met and still work with 3 of them. Sad too many of their families have abandoned their patients and either care very less about them.
I generally see patients first and connect before reading their records, most records are filled with so much negativity and bias and bring out all things violent or pointing to need for incarceration and fierce treatment with ‘no mercy’ anti psychotic shots like haldol and valium oh my…
I take it in strides and many love me, indeed the lone bouncer there has started calling me to help him calm difficult patients ha. Some patients outright ask for me and some nurses too are not so pleased. But I go there only 3/week and the Major and Psychiatrist love me so and are so grateful I am there.
I mean, why would I pass on such a once in a life time opportunity to make a huge difference in my life and those of all these people hurting and suffering from all these debilitation, marginalization and stigmatization like my brother had, just because I am initially a lawyer and from a ‘noble profession and background?’

 

I have never doubted the intelligence my Almighty Father gave me. It is simply awesome all I sponge in, do, learn, love, share and embrace. No turning back for me, I embracing it all – all the way. His Amazing Grace is sufficient for me.

Gaby draws for a client

The boys are so proud of me and ask about my day. I tell them about my friends and sometimes they draw for them like Gaby did above for anty Love – she treasures that drawing and shows it off to everyone lol

Now, have you ever heard of an intern having an intern? Nadege above is a psychology major student who was sent to me on May 15th to train for two weeks before I leave. Here is a flash from our first day together. We took some pictures as she requested, and when she sent same to me, we had the following exchange (shared of course with her permission):

[14:08, 5/15/2018] Marie Abanga: Thanks for the pictures darling. Ravie de travailler avec toi (saying am happy to work with her)
[14:29, 5/15/2018] Nadege Psy: Don’t mention. Me too fière de bosser avec toi. Cette journée à été formidable (saying she is so happy too to work with me, and the day was a blast)

Our office is a hospital room, and we sometimes make a weary client to lie down for 15 minutes to the sound of some meditation music etc… we are out to help our friends as best as we can and am so happy to say I can give myself a 65% reach out. I go for walks with any I think need a walk or have that hot energy to burn out, I sit wherever with whoever, pray with them or sing or even just stare, hold hands, it’s all my spirit leading me. And it has indeed so done, I mean look at what one could manage to write on a worksheet I gave him

Another one who initially told me they don’t speak English, now greets me each morning as follows: “Hello lovely…” He gave me the large chocolate bar in the picture… many have given me little stuffs too, and it’s all so warm…

Be inspired and motivated with that passion and vision of yours regardless of your current circumstances or who says what around you. There is no doubt my just ended spiritual journey has fortified me bigtime for this once in a life time opportunity…

Happy midweek to all

When you say…I will say…


When you say I don’t know me anymore, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say my mind is murky, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say you can’t take it no more, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say you had a miscarriage, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say you just buried a child, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say those kids drive me nuts, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say I am having a divorce, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say I left and lost everything, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say I was abused and raped, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say I want my life back, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say I really need help, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say am making progress, I will say I can imagine how you feel…

When you say thank you we did it, I will say thank you too we really did…

P.s: Excitedly looking forward to starting a new chapter of my life as a professional life coach and CBT therapist. One of coaches told me I had an impressive toolbox of personal experiences. I sure do and am grateful for those… I say the serenity prayer now more than ever…I see where all this is heading to…My long term goal with all this is to open ‘Marie’s Healing Home for inner peace’

Books build my brain best


I miss blogging and just wanted to share what am doing other than gallivanting at the beach or enjoying village fraicheur… Yep am reading as much as I can. I have discovered a fellow Cameroonian author and wow what a dynamite discovery…

When am fully back here I’ll do a post or two more about this awesome author and his over 7 books…

Till then, all the best…

Five Life Lessons from my Hero Erico: “The So called Fool” in Wum


All the above pictures were taken on the same day, in the space of 6/8 hours. Is anyone else excited at the transformation like myself? I forgot something insignificant in wum, but I am threatening to do 20 hours on the road to go get it… wish I could afford that now, just so I see my hero again and give him the pictures he asked me to develop, and thank him from the bottom of my heart from making my short stay so fulfilling. Also would have loved to get him a pair of snickers or take him one of mine.

Dear world, to wrap up this week, I share 5 lessons I learnt from my interraction with Erico:

  1. There is so much to people than meet the eye… how many times do we need to read or hear this I wonder. Anyway, people are different and some take prejudice seriously and go with the general consensus that ‘a fool will always be a fool’. I am so happy I courted Erico and that he warmed up to me so much and agreed to go bathe and come back so we could go around. He talked about so many things and such wisdom from his mouth oh my God;
  2. Erico for example told me that now when people laugh at him he says to himself ‘they are laughing at their own stupidity’. Those were his words, I didn’t want to ask him if he goes or went to school. I don’t think he does but the bottom  line also is you don’t need to go to school to acquire wisdom. Erico told me when he just got to the village he was always angry and fighting especially when he felt or saw children and adults alike mocking him. The fights landed him into so much trouble because he was often beaten by the numbers or stones thrown at him and he had to run and hide home and not want to go out again. Gradually, his mentality changed and he keeps to himself but doesn’t fight back if laughed at;
  3. The ‘fool’ may know something or somewhere you don’t and that could be your saving grace. I could have asked around for the direction to say the lake or the shoe mender, and I could have been ‘scamed’ or taken to a bush and assaulted… these are extreme examples but am sure you can imagine. Now it costs me next to nothing to court Erico and there I was with a warm friend, a guardian and so much information;
  4. Accept your limitations in life and spare yourself head and heartaches. Erico told me that he knew what was expected of him by his grandmum everyday, and he knew that those were his responsibilities because he could not do much more. He couldn’t go to ‘big school’ (I marvelled at his expression), nor work any money. So grandma expected him to wash the dishes, clean the house and compound and go fetch water. He loved doing those and in return he was very grateful for the food he ate everyday;
  5. Don’t take things for granted, it could have been worse. I mean when you see the man who doesn’t have his four limbs, or you see some picture like that of the famine ravished child who was been ‘eyed for a meal’ by a nearby vulture, how can you take anything for granted? Now, some will laugh at Erico and call him a ‘fool’ (probably thinking to themselves they are lucky neither them nor theirs are ‘fools’). Erico told me he was happy to be living with his grandma and able to eat everyday – even he didn’t take things for granted. He was maybe luckier than Tangatapan who lived in the market or motor park or wherever night met him, and carried his luggage on him. And then we want to whine at the weather?

Dear all, I learnt so much and was so touched by my friend and Hero Erico. Such incidents keep me grounded, more humble, modest and simply so grateful for life.

Please, you wanna share any insight?

Wishing us all a splendid weekend and lots of such in life.

Ever seen a better football fan? Wish us luck


I wasn’t going to be interested with the current Afcon games going on in Gabon, and that Cameroon has so far survived to the finals.

But on my way home this afternoon, I saw a real fan and then thought twice.

Yes we meet Egypt again… That sucks… I mean you have countries like Nigeria who with Egypt like making our lives difficult on the pitch. Nigeria is so so – we are step brothers… what can you do other than tolerate each other?  but that Egypt! men we need all the luck. This fan is going to bark the hell out of those Pharaoh guys if only he could get to Libreville on time.

Wish us real luck people. Thank you

Wow: I am going to my see my Boys!


August 2012, the young men with their commander.
August 2012, the young men with their commander.

I am so full of joy, I am still learning how to deal with my great emotions. Woah, after a year and a half, I am going to see my Boys.

I don’t have much to say because many would never understand how a mother in her right senses can leave her children behind in the same ‘shit’ she was running away from. Suffice it to say l wasn’t in my ‘right senses’ then.

My Boys and l  have all been through so much.The poor internet connections, high phone costs and much more, got us to often get in touch only once a week or less. Talk of motherhood across the ocean?

That aside, here is a video l did for a presentation in my school on global cultures. Have fun and know that for the next three weeks, I will crisscross as much of my beautiful motherland as possible. Of course, there is no doubt that my “3 mousquetaires” will be with me all through my stay home.

Hmm, l am taking them to at least one of the radio shows l am invited to, and maybe one of my TV Interviews too. The line up is pretty exciting for actually only two weeks with them, giving that 5 good days will be … at some summit in Kigali.

So, those weeks are all I have for now. However, someday, it shall surely be different. Anyway, as it currently stands, I am going HOME to see my BOYS and l even have some blogging awards to show them too!

Dear gentle readers and followers of mine, thank you in advance for the safe journey wishes and all. My Boys and I will sure do a post from home just for you!

The Vice President of the Cameroon National Assembly leads strong delegation to landmark summit!


Hon Emilia Lifaka

Barely a month after the Cameroon legislative elections catapulted women as aptly reported by UN Women;  thus more than doubling their representation in the National Assembly, and increasing their numbers from 25 to 56, meaning an unprecedented increase from 13.8% to 31.1%, a strong delegation representing these women will be attending the Landmark Annual Summit of the “Women in Parliaments Global Forum” (WIP).

 The 2013 Annual Summit of the “Women in Parliaments Global Forum” (WIP) read more here:  is taking place from 27 to 29 November 2013 in Brussels, hosted by the European Parliament. The WIP Annual Summit 2013 is the first time ever in history that the worldwide community of female Parliamentarians has been invited to come together to use their collective experience to advance society.

The WIP Annual Summit 2013 also marks the 120th anniversary of the day that Women were granted the right to vote for the first time in the world in New Zealand. To date the WIP Annual Summit 2013 has received registrations from female Parliamentarians representing 100 countries from around the world, more than 400 participants are expected.

  • WIP is organised, in cooperation with the European Parliament, the United Nations Development Fund (UNDP), UN Women, the World Economic Forum (WEF), the Inter-Parliamentary Union (IPU), the World Bank, and many other organisations, which will all be represented at the WIP Annual Summit 2013.
  • It is the only global forum for all female Parliamentarians. WIP endeavours to find ways to address global challenges by using the collective experience of Women in Parliaments across the world.
  • WIP is determined to encourage and educate society to learn more about the untapped potential and talent of women, and would like to see an increased number of women representatives in Parliaments around the glove (today fewer than 20% of Parliamentarians are women).
  • An Advisory Board oversees and provides guidance for the activities of the foundation, consisting of outstanding political and social leaders such as Zainab Bangura, Kathy Calvin, Ertharin Cousin, Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma, Benita Ferrero-Waldner, Jane Goodall, Mo Ibrahim, Pascal Lamy, Denis Mukwege, Alhaji Muhammad Mumuni, Ana Palacio, Lakshmi Puri, Sheika Haya Rashed Al Khalifa, Viviane Reding, Olli Rehn, Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir, Laura Tyson, Jody Williams, Muhammad Yunus, Saadia Zahidi.

 

Honourable “Emilia Lifaka became Vice President of the National Assembly in 2009 but has been the Fako West MP for a second consecutive term prior to her brilliant appointment as Vice President of the August Assembly.

Mami Florence Musonge, President of FAWODA Buea East, at a gathering organized by the “MP of Care” as Hon Lifaka is fondly referred to, said the women were more than pleased with Hon.Lifaka’s constant concern for her constituents.

She equally received accolade from Southwest Chiefs for being the first Member of Parliament (MP) to make a donation to Southwest Chiefs’ Conference(SWECC),now headed by Nhon Etuge Pius,with Chief Ayuk John Etchu as its Secretary-General.

At yet another event organized to celebrate her political achievements, she was hailed by the Lord Mayor of Buea Mr Charles Mbella Moki for her transparent and judicial use of her micro-project grants given by the National Assembly, for small development projects.

 As a Cameroonian and current intern with “WIP” I am very excited to welcome our delegation and look forward to their active participation and contribution to the summit. I am very sure that each of the members will have expectations of the summit and will share their evaluation of the said summit with us all come Friday the 29th.

Cameroon could not have been better represented! The distinguished Vice President will be accompanied by Honourable Esther T. Ngalla, Honourable Solange Kwramba and Honourable Josephine Fotso.