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Let me go bury My MC and then look forward to a vacation…


My MC‘s burial is this weekend, wake keep tonight and burial 30th – I am probably going to be there by the time this scheduled post goes up. It’s gonna be a brief one…

I will take a break from blogging for 2 weeks hopefully from July 9-23 , to rest and recuperate (ain’t ever easy I know) and next week is flamed up starting actually on Thursday July 5th with Barakah’s event before I move on to Yaounde for the Leading Ladies Conference.

It was barely 1 month ago that I went by night trip to MC their village to visit my dad… The real relationship being that dad an orphan had been adopted by this Angel when he was just 11/12 in a city he knew no one in and was yet to learn French. It had been 2 decades I hadn’t been there because Grand pere (MC’s dad) died in 2009 when I just had Gaby… In short, all these make for at least two more posts…

For now, see you hopefully next month for a couple of days lol

It’s been one half of a year indeed – hmm, let me just bury My MC and see how it goes with the mini break and co

Have a great weekend everyone and till then – one love – do take care of yourselves and take a break when you have to, cause life can be tough and roller coaster…

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Sahadat my PA, all in one at the office and my Heroine


When you pray for something, you get it. That works for me – and I mean all the time – it may just not be on our time, or the way we want it, but it definitely shows up.

That is how Sahadat showed up nearly 2 years after I started praying for an all in one at the office. Sahadat or my miss as I fondly call her, is the type we call in french “la force tranquile” (the calm force). I don’t know how else to put it, nor show the universe how grateful I am to have Sahadat in my life.

I first met my miss ( She was a Miss for real at the University a few years back oh), when I lectured/facilitated a masters course called The Law of Enterprises in Difficulties. She caught my attention because she wasn’t the smiling type and hardly looked my way when she entered the class. She however never missed a class and answered any questions I asked her. Long story short, I got through her and she became a group leader of an all male team. On the day of their presentation, they all agreed she was a ‘no nonsense leader”. Their group was among the best needless to say.

Here is a line of what she wrote to me at the end of our course: “Thanks for all the beautiful remarks, you are the best female teacher ive ever had…”(unedited)

We kept in touch and one day I mentioned to my miss I was looking for an intern. She started out as one and had gradually morphed into my all in one at the office and my heroine.

The line is definitely blurred between us as in she is my staff, sister, baby miss, PA, and a generous aunty to the boys. Two days ago she was sick, I made her a hefty and healthy breakfast since we were to work from home, made her some ginger/turmeric tea and bullied her to eat. Later I saw she really needed more rest, and so I sent her back home. I asked her if she could have done same for me if I were sick (since she was first refusing my offer to nurse her some), she agreed, and so I asked her why I couldn’t do same for her without having to bully her. She told me in camouflaged words like my son Israel did, that my type of love ‘can suffocate’. We laughed over it, she ate her food and drank the warm healing tea, and then she was good to go back home.

Sahadat has some of my passwords, manages my calendar, is a quick learner and doer and much more.

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Working with me from home, my miss is all focused while I fidgit around lol

I am sincerely so grateful for Sahadat. I am no longer the only female in my team at the office lol.

Did I add how humble and grateful too she was? I wish all entrepreneurs a dynamic colleague like Sahadat and I hope we stay on for a while before a bigger and better offer comes her way lol

Hurray, its time for some celebration: I got a distinction grade, and my son an international award


Loving me my book shelf

The good tidings started this week with the installation of my own special bookshelf in my bedroom. Look, no hiding I love books, read and write all the time;  and yet I of all had no bookshelf ha!!!

When my Guardian Angel asked me what I needed for a birthday gift (needed not wanted for emphasis), of course a book shelf. It finally got ready and installed by oga carpenter last week. May it’s only here but technicians in general take their time…I mean whatever date they give you, multiply that by 3 and be patient for your own sanity…

Anyway, now to more news calling for a celebration shall we…

1) I am now a CBT Qualified Therapist from the BSY Group in the UK, prided to be UK’s number 1 complementary therapy college. It was a tough six months and I indeed was my own client in all the school assignments. You see, I helped my own self out so much that I got the first Distinction grade ever in my life and in a field I so so love.

DEAR GABRIEL (GONE TOO SOON BUT FOREVER IN MY HEART), DEAR MUM, DEAR DYANE HARWOOD: I DEDICATE THIS TO YOU…TEARS FILL ME UP…

Of course others deserve to be appreciated in this endeavour especially my boys who spent several Saturdays alone because I had to go the office to study and do assignments. And my siblings who each in their own way supported me as usual and share the good news with gusto. My guardian angel came in towards the end but gave me much needed emotional support, you all know how tempting it is to give up towards the end right? And you all my e-family and friends, ever growing, ever real…

2) Alain my son in whom I am so glad, will be receiving a bronze medal from the Duke of Edingburgh’s International Award. The 6 months program is one where interested participants commit to carrying out acts of service and exemplary leadership in their schools, communities and homes of course. This is the world’s leading youth achievement award and so I am so proud of my boy and the Grace to be his mama and groom him so.

I wish I could go dancing lol

Happy weekend us all, be inspired and motivated – it ain’t never too late to go for it

 

Pray: How did you kick off this year?


I remember a similar post I wrote last year on the 1st of January. I was bent on that day to kick off the year with sports, especially given all the lousy reasons I came up with in the wee hours of the day not to do same. For me, it boils down to a good start because even if (and yes even when) I lose some momentum during the journey, I can always motivate myself with the memories of a good start – and obviously very good goals lol.

This year is a very special one for me because I was inspired to declare it My Year of Grace. I mean given the success of last year which I had declared My Year of Gratitude and got so much to be grateful for including a Guardian Angel when I had thought I was too old for one, I decided to believe in the power of my own inspirations. No need to go see any tarot readers, soothsayers, Men/Women of God … You name them. Let’s keep our fingers crossed for January 01, 2019 right?

Next special event this year, I formally began meditation and I mean serious ones with knees folded inside. So far I have been able to keep still and fold the knees in place for 10 minutes – don’t laugh give it a try and maybe clap for me lol. But hold up that’s not the goal of meditation oh, the sitting position and brain bushing around; it is the meditation proper, the passage you read and what you retain out of that and how that helps you through out the day.

Now, I needed to be alone in my home on January 1st this year because I needed no distraction whatsoever. I literally locked Ella out of the Gate and locked myself in my room. I had not one but three books I was starting with:

  1. A book of Meditations by the one and only James Allen

  2. Attitudes of Gratitude …by MJ. Ryan

  3. A Mini Course for Life by Jerry Jampolsky and wife Diane, of Attitudinal Healing International

Those three books and the whole meditation concept were offered me so generously by my Guardian Angel. Am I spoiled lucky or what?

After an hour or so meditating and listening to flute music, I went for a long walk and then visited different neighbours on my return. One of them even offered me a chicken drumstick to appease my saliva glands (some spicy odour in the different homes visited were already leaving my glands in a rage).

And so dear gentle readers and followers, I couldn’t think of a more serene way to kick off this 2018 with Grace. Gratitude goes on of course, it brings me so much joy I can’t leave that alone (I love saying all the thank you I can, sending the notes and sms and calls to near irritating hahaha). I hope the steam mustered on Monday 01.01.18 sees me through out the year. I merely turning 39 in 2 weeks time so I should still be good to go right?

Well, enough of me: please Pray gentle reader and follower, how did you kick off this year?

p.s: Will be away for a week or more as we lay my grandma to rest this weekend and retreat as a family for a few days. My two siblings are coming in and am excited to have the bonding time even if under such morose circumstances.

Keep trying to step it up…


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My mini gym, less the skipping rope

Dear world, it’s been a while and I have been awol… OK so far so so…

I have had them series of wahalas, and a knee trouble could only but top it all. This has been going on for a week now, and I moved out and into my home with a bandaged knee. At that time it was least of my worries anyway…

This morning, I feel much better. I mean I just finished a 40 minutes work out in my mini gym. Am trying to step it up. I got those for myself as a moving in gift from me. OK the bottles are actually filled with sand right!!!

I can’t skip yet and oh boy how I miss that. But thank heavens I can walk, even jogged some this morning, and I did 200 steps wow… On Monday when I first tried, it was 100 steps in 2 lots with near faint…

Am not only trying to step it up physically, but also mentally. I am assuring myself everything will work out fine in due time, all the worrying wouldn’t precipitate their occurrence. For example, I am not so sure I can get my boys for the last term of school, but I am already in their neighborhood, can talk to them often, can even see them daily if I want and can, and gosh I can even go there and help them with their homework. I did this again yesterday evening and we were all thrilled. I have already taken permission to have them over this weekend, and my bid to recruit an English home teacher for them is being studied…

Aren’t these blessings to be counted? Aren’t such enough and more reasons to keep trying to step things up?

Dear all, whatever we are going through now, no matter how tough, let’s try to hang in there. When we can, let’s try whichever way we can to step it up one step at a time. Let’s also remember to be grateful for all, and always try to cheer each other up…

It’s my first anniversary in Belgium: Thank You all!


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We surely all admit that transitions are challenging right? I have yet another evidence that they are but with steadfastness, we always survive…

I landed in Belgium on the 8th of January 2013 (but out of excitement I post about it today), and l was struck by two facts:

1) I just left my children and family oceans away and may not get to see them again in the nearest future – how sad l was!

2) The weather wasn’t welcoming at all and it was to say the least, trashing out my already fragile mood. It was -1° and it rained cats and dogs on that day!

I was depressed, poorly dressed, had no boots nor appropriate Jacket and above all, had very little and let’s say highly insufficient funds!

I started off badly in school and flunked woefully in one of my papers – well largely my fault, bad advice and lousiness thanks to my moodiness!

However, I got a lot of support too, both directly and indirectly. My Cousin in Austria even offered me opportunities and the other in Belgium tried her part too. My Family both home and abroad supported in their own way,   and I just can’t name it all!

l also meet my ‘Darling Darling’ and with his support and encouragement, coupled with my realization that l couldn’t keep up that low, l ‘springed’ back to Life.

I have since then braved it all in school, at my new home, and above all in my pursuit of a new career. I finally got hearing aids too.

l dared to dare and got myself jobs/internships in places like ICF-GHK a renowned consultancy, the European Parliament and the WIP Global Forum.

l met a lot of inspiring people both on and off line. My ‘e family’ is simply wonderful and they are growing both in quality and quantity each day.

My fondest statement of 2013 was when Portia Simpson Miller, the Jamaican PM said to me: “Relax Girl”. I couldn’t help but do a post about her as you can refresh here!

I met Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, Dlamini Zuma of the AU and several other dignitaries, and I captured that week here.

I am finishing my first memoir which tells of my alter ego and my tough journey so far, albeit the emotional and spiritual one. You can read about my project here!

I ran a rally and got selected as a community champion for a UN Women facilitated platform for the Economic Empowerment of Women and 3 days ago I got another big Job offer!

Well, to crown it all, the internship I had which caused me some headaches and heartaches, but where I had a wonderful boss and decided to give it my best, has just landed me a confirmation.  I was just raised to Regional Manager for Africa!

For all the above, I say thank you to All, it’s been one big roller coaster ride for me and I wish my journey so far inspires, or what do you think?

For all Mothers!


Ode to Mama!

When I posted on my mother as being my first and best model, I got such feedback that got me to fish out this poem I wrote close to a decade ago!

You will think after writing this I learnt my lessons and sat still but hell no – I got into more turbulent waters!

Fortunately, mu mother like I bet all others, almost got drowned saving me because she didn’t know how to swim !

Have a good read all you my gentle followers, and celebrate your mothers in whatever way you can because someday either you or her will be gone!

Who dares have a contrary view should speak up now or…