The Psychotherapist in Me


Read my latest post on World Pulse about formally starting work as a Psychotherapist in Douala – Cameroon. https://www.worldpulse.com/community/users/marie-abanga/posts/90355

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MAG gets into Lay Ministry


The Spirit of the Lord leads me into lay ministry and my hands are already on the plough. The covenant was to go live on Youtube this 10th of April 2019, and I did just that.
I have been so busy these last weeks with various issues especially with some children victims of rape and sexual abuse. This is one of the focus areas of my Association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and although I love to #bethehope for as many as possible, such cases can drain the hope out of you. My strength comes from the Lord, and it brings me so much joy to step up this way.
Kindly watch my first video then and why not comment and subscribe right? Sharing too is caring, I really appreciate everything Amen
https://youtu.be/e8XLgjBJbqU

Love therapy in the midst of it all


Love therapy is the best I found to work with the rape victims who come to my centre. My center is called Home of Hope & Healing, run by the association Hope for the Abused and Battered. This therapy works hundred times more than sympathy or empathy therapy, or any other therapies I learnt in school. I ask very few of any questions, I just love and tap into my spirit’s bidding. How else do you reach out to a freightened 9 years old who was sexually abused and raped when she was 8? And what of the 23 years old who was sexually abused from the age of 8-11 and raped from the age of 11-18? Worst of all both atrocities by relatives who had ‘ward’ over them? I am so grateful for the way the Lord is using me to #makeitmatter and #MakeitMemorable for these girls. #itispossible someone, #letGodandLovelead #letitflow #youdeservehappiness so always cherish an #attitudeofgratitude Georgi and Courage make me so proud of the goodness of the Lord in my life Amen

If you can donate to my Gofundme Campaign to open a centre, here is the link: https://www.gofundme.com/MarieAH4AB

Child Sexual Abuse: Today Georgi, who next???


Sexual abuse of our children and young girls in Cameroon is becoming a call for concern.

It was barely a month ago that we learned of the case of 10 years old Marie Fortune who had been viciously and consistently raped by her aunt’s husband, leading to her death barely 10 days after being admitted in the hospital.

Child abuse so glaring to a faultLast Friday 15th, we saw a picture on Facebook of a heavily pregnant 11 years old, and before we could reach out to the source to investigate and do some further advocacy, we received the following distress whatsapp chat from another victim [15/03, 12:25] Georgi: Bonjour Madame

[15/03, 12:26] Georgi: J’aimerais que vous prenez le temps de lire ce document

[15/03, 12:26] Georgi: J’ai besoin d’aide et je pense que vous pouvez m’aider à avancer dans ma vie

[15/03, 12:27] Georgi: Mais je vous supplie de le lire jusqu’à la fin

[15/03, 12:27] Georgi: C’est long je sais. Mais j’ai essayer d’être brève du mieux que je pouvais

[15/03, 12:28] Georgi: J’ai eu votre contact via un site internet après une longue recherche sur le net

[15/03, 12:28] Georgi: SVP ne me rejeter pas

[15/03, 12:54] .Marie A. Abanga: Salut Georgina, je vais la lire et revenir vers vous ok? Non je ne vous rejete pas.

She reached out in French and anyone who doesn’t understand French can kindly google translate same. She was pleading with me to read the 4 page story she sent me, and not to reject her. She concluded by saying she desperately needed all the help she could get because she wasn’t working/earning any income. I actually received her at my home(which serves as the temporal offices and center of the association Hope for the Abused and the Battered) that same evening at 5 pm, and we had a soulful hour and a half together.

We need to help Georgi find safer accommodation because where she moved to is still just as taxing although no more sexual abuse. The stigma, insults and control is taking a toll on the now 23 years old Goergi.

We also wish to help her to do a thorough medical check up because she still has pelvic pains and can’t afford to go to the hospital. Our Founder (that is myself – a certified CBT Therapist and Psychologist), is offering free psycho-therapeutic sessions to Georgi for as long as she needs these.

No donation is insignificant.  By Grace, the H4AB mental health care support center and safe halfway haven for victims like Georgi will be opened. Visit our website to know more about us, and to contact us directly to join or support our work. God bless us all. Thank you in advance as you donate and or share our campaign Georgi’s story in full and in French: could be read on our facebook page right here.

Follow this link to donate please: https://www.gofundme.com/MarieAH4AB

The only way I can celebrate my womanhood is to renew my pledge for a better girlhood and womanhood


 

Some things happen in your society which affect you to the core even if you are not ‘related’ to the victims or parties concerned. An incident like that which happened last month in my country Cameroon, I mean in my city of Douala even, concerned a vicious rape and consistent defilement of a girl child for two years. The 10 year old girl finally gave up the ghost in hospital after two years of rape by her aunt’s husband, after developing waist trauma and cancer.

Yes, she is a girl, and not even my daughter some may say. But nope, she would have been a woman tomorrow, and she could have been my daughter. Our collective society is traumatized by such a despicable act, and this got me really thinking. I asked myself this: “Are you going to join other women to celebrate the international women’s day on the 8th of March this year under the theme #BalanceforBetter, when little girls women of tomorrow cannot even feel safe in their own homes? Where can any balance for better be seen here? I mean how many more rapes do we need to record in our communities before realizing how unbalancing it has all become? I was and I am still recovering from the shock of that act. I decided to make the following pledge to that baby girl:

Fortune I pledge

1) That I personally intend to seek an audience with Social Affairs and Justice Ministers, and work in collaboration with any other associations picking this case up;

2) That even if no one is joining me, I will do my best before leaving the rest to God;

3) That I wouldn’t worry about the resources to do what has to be done because I know God knows it all;

4) That I refuse to feel any stigma or entertain any stigma or naysayers on my way to seek Social Justice for your spirit, and all the others like you going through such unfathomable ordeals regardless of their age;

5) That in God I trust so that He will finish what He has started in and through me;

6) That the association Hope for the Abused and Battered which I founded last year, whose 3rd focus area is being the hope for children victims of abuse (especially sexual abuse), will champion your cause and those of the many others like you with all its energy;

7) That I make this pledge in all Faith, Hope and Charity. May God be my Helper for all times Amen

It was only then I felt like I am really living up to my womanhood, and that I could celebrate the freedom and opportunity I had to be such a fierce advocate for the abused and battered women not only in my community but in my country and the world at large. I think of countries where young girls and women don’t even dare to dream, they know that all what they can aspire to is become housewives the earlier the safer. I think of a documentary I once watched entitled; “India the worst place to be a woman”, and how grateful I was not to have been born there. I wonder which balance can be spoken of there and when it could ever get better.

There are several ways to celebrate our womanhood especially on the day the international community sets aside for that – 8th of March; let’s make it a celebration of impact and not just one of colourful fabric wearing and merry making as has been the tradition in my country for a long while now.

I am not saying merry making and fabric wearing are not good, I got my own fabric already stitched courtesy of my mum this very day. However, she knows I don’t do merry making on that day, I prefer participating in symposiums and media events to talk about female entrepreneurship, leadership and all other many issues hindering any real #BalanceforBetter; there is hope nevertheless, and I want to be the hope because I saw hope myself.

All about Hope

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When a 10 year old is consistently and viciously raped for two years before she dies…


At H4AB, It’s all about Hope: Hope for Children Victims of Rape: The case of Fortune RIP

Hope for Children victims of sexual abuse because this is the worst form of childhood abuse we can ever imagine (26.02.19)

Fortune: Just 10 years old but her life was hanging on the drip. Viciously raped over and over by her aunt’s husband. She rested in the Lord yesterday 25.02.19 at around 2 pm. May she rest in but may her rapist know no peace.

Family matter it may be said, but the law is clear. This innocent child had been raped for 2 years consistently and viciously by one who was supposed to be her guardian.

Some legal colleagues and my humble self had been brainstorming how to take up the case pro bono. We had tried to make contact with her family and finally got to visit them in the hospital last week.

It was but normal that the first visit just be a familiarisation one, while we bring up the need to prosecute in our next visit. A visit which sadly wouldn’t take place.

Please all, let’s just say no once and for all to any suppression of information; and victimisation of victims all over again.

We parents and guardians can’t afford to continue pretending it’s ‘family matter’ and not good to expose perpetrators.

Imagine how much physical and psychological damage such attitudes cost the victims all the way into adulthood. Adverse childhood experiences is for real, and Fortune’s spirit is silently crying for Justice from the grave. The law on Rape in my country also leaves a lot to be desired.

Kindly help us draw public outrage and intervention by the Ministers of Justice and Social Affairs by signing and sharing our petition. We really appreciate: http://chng.it/Gn4F7bNH

One of those days when a mother’s heart is nearly ripped apart


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I could never imagine my own son could have the courage to shoplift. Here below is a write up I shared on Facebook about the devastating events

Loving him tough all the way to the police station and more (20.02.19)

Sometimes all the love you show can’t stop the child from delinquency. Tough love becomes very necessary the earlier the better.

It was thanks to another major delinquency at home, the hiding of his brother’s phone to supposedly punish the later, that everything came to light.

The chocolates he had been stealing from Carefour market (a super market not too far from home), the oufer and headset.

I had to take them to the police station this morning and write a formal complaint because this morning even after the phone was discovered thanks to its alarm, he denied taking the phone.

After the police station, I brought him with the stolen things first to Carefour Market and then to Mahima (another super market) where he stole 2 body sprays.

It is never easy especially to realize all the love and efforts you show can still have such traumatic cracks.

But, I decided to show such extreme tough love now and not later. The security head at both shops took his statement and talked to him very sternly; he is also forbidden from entering those shops again. I had to pay for all the items stolen close to 20.000frs, they didn’t put penalties because I brought him myself.

He says he was seeing his friends with goodies in school and wanted his. When he stole once and wasn’t caught he felt comfortable doing it again and again from the two supermarkets.

Lord help us parents’ especially single parents.

Sadly, when I called his dad he told me it was my cup of tea. I refuse to play the blame game nor look at where the genetic predisposition could be coming from tschuippppp. I equally refuse to care about reputation and blablabla

Some Takeaways from my son’s shoplifting saga:1) Some children do shoplift not out of lack but peer pressure 2) Some parents may cover their children up out of pride, but not me o 3) prayers work. The shop had his file ready to take to his school, they had already noticed him in his school uniform 3 times. He has shoplifted a total of 6 times in one shop and 2 times in another shop 4) Our most quiet may be the most smooth mischief 5) Sibling issues can be solved by them in the most vicious way we can imagine (cold bloodily hiding his brother’s phone out of the house under a stone, and swearing heaven and hell he knows nothing about the whereabouts of the phone) 6) Thant I indeed love him unconditionally 7) That some still care even if you don’t talk all year round, I was so moved and feel so blessed o Amen

All is well now, I mean that same evening we all gathered for our healing circle and the matter was laid to rest as we broke bread together to put it so.

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I am asking by faith and hope for a return ticket to London


I am asking on the faith of Mt 7:7, and with a lot of hope. I took so long to ask because asking has never been easy for me – especially asking from the public like this.

Ask and you shall receive: Marie Angele Abanga is asking for a ticket to London – that is what I receive already spiritually and start celebrating today – ouf that was tough but I wrote it and just repeated it to myself

I was seriously thinking about where I was going to get a ticket to go to London next month, precisely departure on the 15th of March – return on the 10th of April. I was musing and prayer for 3 days last week, and on Friday my spirit said well Mt 7:7. I looked it up and I started crying. I had to calm down and then talk with some before doing this today.

Maybe I am not the only one who finds it so hard to ask – I wasn’t and still am not an ‘I want person’. So, I tried to be still some more to listen if there was an alternative to doing this, but nope if you need you will have to ask before you can receive.

So there I go, I am asking for help to get a ticket to go to London. I checked and that will be around 550.000frs cfa or maybe less if I search other airlines and get it early – although March isn’t a peak travelling season so my hopes are high. That will make approx 916 usd or 611 pounds. I am so hopeful Amen – I mean if I were just offered a ticket wow how amazing and graceful.

I got that UK Visa last October on my faith, and an invitation letter for a summit which was long over before the visa was even granted. It occurred to me before I even got the visa, that the real reason for the trip will be revealed to me later as well as the when I’ll actually travel.

Last month, I was invited in my capacity of founder Hope for the Abused and Battered association, to be a guest speaker at a Women’s Conference on March 30th in London. I am equally hoping to use the trip for much needed networking and partners sourcing for the association.

With a mental health care support center to open; as well as a shelter for victims of domestic abuse, partners and members are definitely needed from everywhere.

I therefore want to already thank all those who will be reaching out through whatever means, to help me get this covered.

I know how cheerful I have always felt giving, may you feel same way too. It is true there is more joy in giving than in receiving, but this time around the joy will be so mutual.

I remain yours Marie Abanga Global – MAG aka MAGnectic.

To God be the Glory for evermore

#askandushallreceive

#MAGmuses

#MAGinneed

#MAGtakesthelead

#MAGisintentional

#lamMAGnectic

#letGodandLovelead


img-20190203-wa0023Hello world,

I am so happy to find this post by Pete which I can only but Reblog. I am in Yaounde another city of Cameroon since the 1st of February, and I had decided this trip is for visiting as many as possible and just sharing my love. Love fills me with so much hope, I am confident in Christ sharing same…be it with my son from the streets turned marathoner above, or with Iris with whom I am in love since 2015.

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Basking in their love too. The official business I have is this am, but I am already so grateful I came and have so far done just as planned and even much more. Because I am Freedom and Love, it’s all about love to me…Love is the same as charity …read Pete’s post which got nothing short of my 5 stars

 

via The End of the Commandment

The End of the Commandment: All about Charity

I asked for more from life; I got a new relationship some days later wow


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How funkier can it get world? 4 days ago I said I was looking for more and yesterday 27.01.19, I put my hand on the plough to commit and transform a 10 year old acquaintance/friendship into a full relationship. Ha this life for real. I mean I had been looking out everywhere except in front of me hahaha.

Bottom line I also get is that; what you release into the universe comes back to you for real. I was also keeping a long checklist for this partner which I updated twice even, and this fellow ticks off 99.99% hahaha

Finally, I am in such a great place now, it is on my terms with the barest compromise necessary but I am good to go Amen

You’ve got to be intentional about what you want/need/deserve in life, and interview potential partners why not. He is the second I thoroughly drilled on our first date (yesterday) not wanting to be progressing not knowing as much as I’ll love to lol

Be inspired and motivated everyone