I take part in a dance challenge with my sons to raise funds for H4AB


Mansa Musa Dance Challenge: A vote for team MAGnifique is a vote for Hope for the Abused and Battered

You don’t take part in a dance challenge at 41 unless you have reasons like I do (am no musician nor professional dancer o)

I have an organization and we need to raise funds by all means including dancing why not.

So, in addition to the above I dance to break stereotypes about what an African woman should do or not do at such an age; should wear or not wear too.

I am grateful my sons joined in willingly. The last is the king you see, the second is the King’s favourite guard, and the first was the camera man.

Mansa Musa just returned from a successful Hadj to Mecca and is in high spirits.

Like our clip, leave a comment of love and share so others do the same.

And please do not forget to check out the full song on their YouTube Channel @NPro Street Record Label, with gratitude to its founder Akeem Williams De Puzo

https://youtu.be/8auDnDwtOjw

Movie Review: WOMAN by Goretti


Wow Happy New Year Blogsphere,

I almost thought I had given up blogging on wordpress lol.

But, when one of your heroines produces a movie with the single word WOMAN, you stay up at night and watch, and you watch it again in the office, actually binge watch on your both gadgets lol.

So, Goretti who I described a few years ago as shooting for the moon, released her epic movie WOMAN onto the world wide web.

Let me just share the description on the channel, while encouraging or even plead with you all to watch, share and why not leave a review too so it helps dem in their analysis and preparation for part 2 right?

Meet Angoh, Manga and Rachel, the three it took to tango. Angoh is the unsuspecting wife who gets blindsided by her sneaky husband. Manga is the husband, who likes to eat his cake and have it too. Rachel is the bitch we all like to hate, the home-wrecker, and the one who ‘stole’ someone’s husband or did she?
‘Woman’ poses the question that many of us refuse to consider. Should the blame be equally shared by all three or none?
Is this just another lame case of the very brain-washed rhetoric ‘He’s just a man, they are weak and prone to mistakes’ or should there be a renewed pride and dignity demanded by women to reject that kind of excuse?
Truth is, there is a different breed of women emerging from behind the shadows, they are called ‘Woman’ they raise their head in self-love and only lower their heads to admire the path upon which they walk.

An exceptional week in Accra Ghana does so much to me


Hello world,

Wow wow wow. I am currently on my way back to my country Cameroon after spending a week (5 full days lol) in Accra Ghana. Accra is a big hustle and bubble commercial city in Ghana, and seriously could be a mini version of Baltimore MD hahahaha.

So, I was there officially for a 3 day orientation into the university of Lancaster as a Commonwealth Scholar, doing an MSc in something lol

Well, y’all should know by now am an #areagirl and when I globe trotte, I make the most of my trotting hahahaha.

I tried my best in Accra, indeed the same minute I landed I followed my host straight from the airport to town for some errands they had. We looked up my stuffs in the booth as I had insisted – why be dropped off at any home?

I generally don’t love living in ‘high rise’ areas like where my school was, nor in homes which feel more like prisons hahahahaha. I am freedom and love, and wish to go wherever and whenever – well I kept remembering what I was officially here for too o.

Another highlight of my trip was FOOD. I was advised to make my trip an ‘operation eat all you can’ because I had lot so much weight, and my cousin hosting me said she was putting me on a ‘1day/1kg’ diet. Both at home and school, AWWWWWWW Food Food Folly lol

I did make a lot of new friends, classmates and some blogger sister from World Pulse. We were so happy.

And yes, I had so much fun gallivanting an regaining my groove to be made up, swavy, sexy and good to go feeling funky hahahaha

You know, as in YOLO – You Only Live Once, I am doing the 4 Ls wherever I am. I live, I love, I laugh and I learn.

I am so grateful for this opportunity, and for all the Angels on my path during the trip. I return home filled from all angles you name them, and yes I was a good student after all hahahahaha

The Startup Grind Douala brings Marvin Cole of OVAMBA wow


 

Some things make and get me so excited I may need to drink some coffee to calm down.

Wait up, it was last last year the first startup grind Douala event and yours truly was there big big time. Let me find that post lol

So, tomorrow again, I’ll just create time and show up men – they are bringing Marvin Cole of OVAMBA – I mean I love learning – and from people who have hustled and bustled to the top – this girl I am is already bouncing so much. My outfit is was hung out this morning for the sun to warm it up some lol

So, I’ll dash in an out the PTA of the 4 musketeers I now have lol, then a meeting from 2-4 pm, no blackman time is allowed cause am the one hosting, and then 5-8 pm Bano Palace (a chick one for that much)

Life is good, have a fantastic weekend everyone

Posted in Cameroon, GMHPN, Mental Health Advocacy

The serious foursome Ss which stall mental health and wellbeing in Cameroon


I have written extensively on mental health, mental wellbeing and mental illness on my own website, blog and the Gbm Foundation for epilepsy and mental wellbeing of which I am the Country Director; and on numerous national and international media. But, these serious foursome Ss pop up again and again – seems like there will be no meaningful progress until they are squarely addressed.

S1: SPIRITUAL ATTACK

When you are in a very religious country or community, you should realize that religion and spirituality or whichever comes first to the people, plays a very big role in their lives. Indeed, long before ‘white man’ medicine came, people were cured or healed through incantations and other process including drinking various portions and following special protocols. A spiritual attack is when there is a belief that the origin of the attack is mysterious especial when no other logical explanation exists. Truth be told, no logical explanation exists to explain a mental health challenge or disorder, and the first stop when there is a crisis here, is mostly to a Man or Woman of God. Hold up, they are actually competing or on the same line of importance as the traditional doctors when we consider the second S.

S2: SUPERSTITION

Even where it can be ascertained it is a spiritual attack, the source must be rooted out right? Who else but a jealous person or witch/wizard can cause someone to have a mental health problem or illness? The predominant belief in our communities had always been that any sudden illness or death is superstitious and very suspicious. Mental health challenges or illnesses are no exception. Indeed, for these categories of ‘wahala’ (local slang for trouble), it is the norm and can only be cast out or cleansed by the traditional doctor aka Ngambe man (witch doctor) for us. I mean, if neither the spiritual healer nor the herbal healer cannot help, why not just chain up the person and let them waste away and die instead of bringing more embarrassment to all concerned? The next S comes in here.

S3: STIGMA

Stigma is both from without and within. The society and even families stigmatize the patient and their family; and the patient loses all their self-esteem and stigmatize themselves by withdrawing further and further into their own ‘world’. Families get fed up trying to help while navigating all that stigma, and the patient’s ‘supposedly non-compliant attitude’ only makes matters worst. Tie them and lock them up or outside in a barn let them become whatever they want. The patients equally fed up with the treatment and stigma, lookout for ways to live their ‘freedom’ and to ‘communicate their frustration’ in anyway that appeals to their already very distorted cognition. Society notices and sighs in slushed sentences and all stakeholders are at a lost on what to and how to proceed. And then the next S.

S4: SHAME

Note I write the last two Ss in all caps. My own way of shaming them actually. Shame can make even families with the means to take their patients to the hospital and seek better and alternative treatment protocols not to do so. Shame is the outcome of all the stigma explicit or implied, and we all know how people could sometimes fight to protect their ‘reputation’. We have surely heard of ‘honour killings’ in some countries where families have taken the lives of one of theirs because of the shame this individual was bringing to their name. Some patients out of shame, could also contemplate or commit suicide because the life they now lead is definitely the skeleton what was before they fell ill and they can’t stand the pain, stigma and all any more.

It is therefore my humble submission that we in Cameroon have to address these foursome Ss if we are to really make any progress with any mental health campaign. Our realities are still far different from those of the west, I saw this first hand when I did a two months internship at the lone public psychiatric ward in the city of Douala. Many patients brought in are already so challenged and ill, it’ll take much more than a brief hospitalization to help them. Some even in the hospital don’t open up to get any little help available, they are ashamed or feel stigmatized even by some medical personnel – sad to admit.

Today as we celebrate World Mental Health Day under the impressive theme Young People and Mental Health in a Changing World, I salute the efforts made to raise awareness to the different issues involved surrounding mental health, but I add that we should step up our listening. Sometimes people hurt so bad but there is just no one to listen to you even when you want to trust enough to tell.

Marie Abanga is a phenomenal woman by every account who defines herself simply as a person of passion and a tale of talents. She runs a private psychotherapy practice in the city of Douala – Cameroon and be contacted through her website at https://marieabanga.com.