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Overcoming my fear of wearing my hearing aids in Public!


l have had a hearing deficiency from as far back as my high school days. It was and it is still frustrating.

Before, the issue was that I couldn’t hear well so I couldn’t hold a conversation without straining myself out. In school, I read lips and sat in the first row and sometimes really close to the lecturers’ table. I actually preferred reading and still do.

I once went to a specialist back home and he washed my ears and said something about my needing h-aids, but there was no money to spare for them at the time.

So when I came to Brussels last year, I immediately took out an insurance and went again for a check up. This time, I was prescribed one and I knew I either got them or got lost.

I got them and was even surprised to be reimbursed completely some months later. Now, you would think with all this narrative, I should be proudly wearing them everywhere right?

Oh no,  another frustration was, I felt they were too big and will add to my ‘pity likeness’ (if such a word exist). You see, we even judge ourselves before others do and this is bad.

Now, I tried to always have a hair do that will cover my ears so no one sees my h-aids. But for how long you may ask? I needed them so badly and could not leave them home you see.

I talked about it with my Gentleman and he reassured me that people wouldn’t care and that even those who did would be glad it was me not them who had the problem anyway.

I also started seeing people with theirs and they were all so confident and happy. I had been scared that I would lose my job if my boss found out I had h-aids but oh poor me, she has never even made a remark up to today.

I remember the first time I had to go visit my friend’s family with my braids pulled back and how nervous I was but then it went well and nobody even remarked.

Sometimes I still forget those aids and then it is hard to hold a conversation and this time around, I often remove them at home and it nerves all over. I  however feel more comfortable with them and don’t care about their size and colour anymore.

A kid sister of mine back home with a similar problem was talking to me about the different types of h-aids (the BTE and the ITE) and the negative attention it attracted. I told her I didn’t care anymore.

Surely one day, I would get an ITE (inside the ear) but for now, my BTE (behind the ear)although big, was just perfect for me. Many may want one but they just can’t afford and so I am truly grateful for that.


Does anyone have similar experience to share or just a remark to make?


Marie Abanga aka MAG likes to describe herself as a “Jacqueline of several trades”. She is an everyday woman and mother with a zigzag profile. Let’s give it a try! She is an Activist, an Author, a Coach, a Consultant, a Feminist, a Lawyer, a Lecturer, a Prince 2 Project Manager, a Psychotherapist, a Philanthropist, a minister of the Word of God and...! She just loves to sum it up by saying she is a person of passions and a tale of talents. Her life’s journey has filled over 6 books already and her three musketeers keep her busy at home. MAG is also the founder and CEO of the association Hope for the Abused and Battered, and the Country Director of the Gabriel Bebonbechem Foundation for Epilepsy & Mental wellbeing. The plethora of life's experiences and shenanigans she has lived through and learned from in near 4 decades of existence, have equipped her with such an arsenal to coach, train and motivate just any and everyone. She is so charismatic, dynamic and full of life, going by her designed mantra of 3Ds: Determination; Discipline and Dedication. These sum her+her quest to be the best version of herself and impact others perfectly. She attributes all her wealth of knowledge to her conscientious attendance of both informal and formal school.

7 thoughts on “Overcoming my fear of wearing my hearing aids in Public!

  1. I remember when I was prescribed reading glasses how embarrassed I was. I didn’t want to wear them but I had problems reading. I felt stupid and thought everyone would stare at me.

    But, eventually I had to wear them and nobody cared anyway.

    So we should just thank God that we’re in a position to get hearing aids and reading glasses. There are many people out there who need them but can’t afford them. 🙂

    Have a great weekend.


  2. Mama Ayo,
    Like an Ibo man will say ‘Insai’, you have said it all. You actually felt thesame like me. I have had hearing problems as far back as in my primary school days. I also had problems communicating with friends. Three years after it started, i was so scared that i would lose my hearing completely. Until i was prescribed one that is now functionless. Some years back, my hearing problems was in my mind every waking moment of my day. But now it isn’t, i’ve been so used to it indeed so much that i am almost unaware of it. ‘I badly need one now’, i told my aunt in Ireland who said she will make inquiries about the earpiece and get back to me. Am still waiting for her to say something. i hopefully believe that i would have one sooner. Mama Ayo, i am inspired by Mr. Nils story. Thanks for sharing it with me. Happy Sunday


    1. Dear Bibi,

      Thanks for stopping by. You see, you admit both are good and worst of all, it is even your aunt in Ireland who will be getting it for you. My advice is, overcome your fear of the ackwardness of wearing BTE and be thankful to have a solution to your problem, that is if she can afford only that.


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